Never Married

[HairyO]

With your height, you definitely have the right genetics to pass onto your kids.

My girlfriend is quite small and I'm kinda nervous to bring a short son into the world.

My son is small but is happy and healthy so I couldnt care less. Nor could he.

 

[Brunswick Trap King]

But mostly guys right, girls are just the afterthought here when you got questioned, don't even deserve to be out of brackets apparently.

Pretty harsh. I get the feeling he checked his privilege and realised he couldn't speak on behalf of a gender that he doesn't represent.

 

[Brunswick Trap King]

My son is small but is happy and healthy so I couldnt care less. Nor could he.

Do you think there will come a time where you both frequent Bigfooty?

 

[HairyO]

Do you think there will come a time where you both frequent Bigfooty?

He doesnt like football.

His greatest flaw by far.

 

[Brunswick Trap King]

He doesnt like football.

His greatest flaw by far.

Sounds like he would fit right in the SRP then

 

[ioppolo]

I told my gf I didn't wanna play the vanilla safe lifestyle of settling into a full time job and buying a house, thus locking me into the same lifestyle for 25 years to come.

She was fine with it. She wants to buy still but she's happy for me to not go on the mortgage and just pay my way via bills etc. She said there's no way she'd stop me persuing what I want to do.

 

[Gough]

It depends on whether the boundaries move from the start of the relationship, my mate lost his first girlfriend after he moved into public life because she didn't want that and he hadn't even considered it when they started going out.

 

[utility]

"plenty of guys (and girls for that matter)"

And, yeah, marriage is a bit of an impediment to certain things. "Hey babe, I've always wanted to be an actor... I'm gonna move to LA for the next year and see what happens. You good with that?". Of course there are a lot of pursuits that you can undertake while married but there are definitely more barriers in the way than if you were single, because you have to take someone else's wants and needs into account.

If you marry the right guy/girl then marriage is an enabler, not a disabler. The key is finding the RIGHT guy/girl. You need to have similar values and life goals for the really important stuff. Marriage can actually be empowering. Things get a bit trickier once kids start popping out but having kids is the BEST thing in the world so worth the sacrifice.

It also doesn't mean you have to get shackled to a mortgage.

 

[Nothing]

I don't know... I bet there are a lot of Jimi Hendrix's out there who are stuck behind a desk working a 9-5 their whole life because they got into a committed relationship too early and got forced to play the 'safe' game. Would there be many girls who let their guy quit their career/degree and spend an inordinate amount of "together" time away from them to pursue a dream? I imagine a lot of blokes get to 40-45 and become bitter that they didn't take more of a risk/work harder in their 20s due to family pressures.

I had a mate stuck in the 8am to 7pm "desk job". It meant he spent very little time with his young family. The wife was happy for him to quit that well paid (six figure) job and become a self employed personal trainer earning a pittance.

The right girl will understand that life is more important than the income and support those decisions.

 

[Bomberboyokay]

Jimi Hendrix died at 27.

 

[Scotland]

I told my gf I didn't wanna play the vanilla safe lifestyle of settling into a full time job and buying a house, thus locking me into the same lifestyle for 25 years to come.

She was fine with it. She wants to buy still but she's happy for me to not go on the mortgage and just pay my way via bills etc. She said there's no way she'd stop me persuing what I want to do.

I see red flags in this.

 

[ioppolo]

I see red flags in this.

In that she wants to buy even without my name on a mortgage?

 

[Scotland]

In that she wants to buy even without my name on a mortgage?

That and her being 'OK with it'. Girls' priorities change with age.

 

[utility]

That and her being 'OK with it'. Girls' priorities change with age.

It could be worse.

It may be their waist line changes with age too!

 

[Catfish Alley]

Everyone’s priorities change - at least they should.

 

[ioppolo]

That and her being 'OK with it'. Girls' priorities change with age.

I'd imagine most people's do, yours included.

 

[Scotland]

I'd imagine most people's do, yours included.

Certainly do, and have.

 

[Howard Littlejohn]

I don’t think anybody is actively seeking dumb, ugly sick people.

Would you avoid somebody if they had cancer or heart issues in their family?

This, along with the creepy vibe thing, is a large part of why I am single.

 

[GoodesStuff]

This, along with the creepy vibe thing, is a large part of why I am single.

Your self esteem is probably a larger part of why you are single.

 

[raskolnikov]

I have a partner, so not single, but not having children I do wonder what is going to happen to my things when I'm gone. There is no way any of my nieces or nephews deserve a cent of it. I think I'll probably just leave it to the RSPCA.

 

[emuboy]

Does anyone think that some people are just meant to be single? There's lots of people who try all sorts of things to meet the right person and every attempt fails.

 

[tigertigertiger]

Marriage really is an institution

 

[Scotland]

I have a partner, so not single, but not having children I do wonder what is going to happen to my things when I'm gone. There is no way any of my nieces or nephews deserve a cent of it. I think I'll probably just leave it to the RSPCA.

Just sell it as you go. No point dying with an investment property and share portfolio and thinking 'Gee I wish I'd taken that trip to Bhutan' or whatever.

One set of grandparents died in the early 2000s and left behind basically nothing. Lived on a pension, didn't own their own flat, and didn't even own a car the last few years of their lives. They never had much to begin with but maybe they had it right. The other side weren't wealthy but left behind an above median priced home for the next generation to sell of and split the proceeds. If you are in a position to help your (royal) grandchildren that's great, but for most people by the time you die your children are already 40-50+ and set up for life anyway.

 

[raskolnikov]

Just sell it as you go. No point dying with an investment property and share portfolio and thinking 'Gee I wish I'd taken that trip to Bhutan' or whatever.

One set of grandparents died in the early 2000s and left behind basically nothing. Lived on a pension, didn't own their own flat, and didn't even own a car the last few years of their lives. They never had much to begin with but maybe they had it right. The other side weren't wealthy but left behind an above median priced home for the next generation to sell of and split the proceeds. If you are in a position to help your (royal) grandchildren that's great, but for most people by the time you die your children are already 40-50+ and set up for life anyway.

Funny you say that as I've just put my investment property up for sale.

I have a fair bit of long service leave as well so hoping to travel a lot over the next few years.

 

[revo333]

I have a fair bit of long service leave as well so hoping to travel a lot over the next few years.

Family friend died last year, about 65 years old and told my Dad before his mind went that his biggest regret was hardly travelling.

I found that very sad to hear.

Going to try and do as much travelling as i can in the next 5 years.