R U OK?

[rdhopkins2]

Not just today but everyday we should be looking out for our family, friends and colleagues.

Reach out and check in.


You never know, you might help save a life/s.

R U OK?

 

[the_interloper]

Hope all of you are ok, well I know things are pretty ****ed for nearly everyone. Anyway the weather is getting better, a walk to get a coffee or something helps the headspace a bit I find.

 

[demondavey]

Ask me tomorrow night at about 10:30pm

 

[Gough]

Best thing the government could do to improve people's mental health is resign.

 

[Jhye Clark 13]

I'm going to start a long rant because I think it's important.

Almost a year ago I lost everything ... My house, my wife, my kids, everything I own apart from my car.

I had false allegations put against me for domestic violence and had nowhere to turn. I turned to drugs and alcohol as a solution to finding a way out. I attempted to commit suicide but was caught in the act. Was it worth it? Well I thought it was at the time, as do a lot of people with mental health problems. The feeling that the only way out is to end your life is terrifying on reflection.

Not to be outdone with the first attempt I thought I'd try again, only this time someone on this site that I don't know personally saved my life again. (That's too long a story to explain now.

I decided to seek help. It was either sink or swim and I chose the latter.

Most men are too scared to show emotion or speak about how they're feeling so they hide away and bottle it all up until it becomes too much and they do the unthinkable.

With the help of many people I was able to get myself out of a rut I never thought was possible.

It was time to stand up and become a man. I reached out to a psychologist, I started eating healthy and taking the steps to get my mind right ... I was going to win the battle and no-one could stop me.

I spent 3 months studying family law inside out in between work commitments and made myself a promise that not only would I win my kids back without the hefty legal fees but I'd stay alive to be part of their lives. I lost my own father when I was 7 and didn't want them going through the same trauma.

To cut a long story short I self represented in court and got back access to my kids. That was after a long and gruelling 8 or so months.

It's long road and I still have my bad days but now I'm better prepared with how to deal with them.

I also received a government grant for a diploma in mental health - which I've deferred for now after 2 months - which is another focus.

What I'm trying to say to anyone struggling, no matter how hard it is there's always light at the end of the tunnel.

If anyone here is struggling my inbox is always open ... I'll even give you my Facebook Messenger details and sit up all night and chat if that's what it takes. I don't care what time of the day or night either.

There's nothing stronger than a broken man who has rebuilt himself.

Love to you all. Stay strong and stay safe.

 

[Dav]

I'm going to start a long rant because I think it's important.

Almost a year ago I lost everything ... My house, my wife, my kids, everything I own apart from my car.

I had false allegations put against me for domestic violence and had nowhere to turn. I turned to drugs and alcohol as a solution to finding a way out. I attempted to commit suicide but was caught in the act. Was it worth it? Well I thought it was at the time, as do a lot of people with mental health problems. The feeling that the only way out is to end your life is terrifying on reflection.

Not to be outdone with the first attempt I thought I'd try again, only this time someone on this site that I don't know personally saved my life again. (That's too long a story to explain now.

I decided to seek help. It was either sink or swim and I chose the latter.

Most men are too scared to show emotion or speak about how they're feeling so they hide away and bottle it all up until it becomes too much and they do the unthinkable.

With the help of many people I was able to get myself out of a rut I never thought was possible.

It was time to stand up and become a man. I reached out to a psychologist, I started eating healthy and taking the steps to get my mind right ... I was going to win the battle and no-one could stop me.

I spent 3 months studying family law inside out in between work commitments and made myself a promise that not only would I win my kids back without the hefty legal fees but I'd stay alive to be part of their lives. I lost my own father when I was 7 and didn't want them going through the same trauma.

To cut a long story short I self represented in court and got back access to my kids. That was after a long and gruelling 8 or so months.

It's long road and I still have my bad days but now I'm better prepared with how to deal with them.

I also received a government grant for a diploma in mental health - which I've deferred for now after 2 months - which is another focus.

What I'm trying to say to anyone struggling, no matter how hard it is there's always light at the end of the tunnel.

If anyone here is struggling my inbox is always open ... I'll even give you my Facebook Messenger details and sit up all night and chat if that's what it takes. I don't care what time of the day or night either.

There's nothing stronger than a broken man who has rebuilt himself.

Love to you all. Stay strong and stay safe.

Thanks for sharing mate. I have also been 'on the brink' so to speak, in the position to take my own life but I talked myself out of it, in the end the finality of death scared me too much.

Just saying what I was feeling to someone I trusted was the most liberating thing I could ever do because now those thoughts were real, they weren't just voices in my own head.

Every time I talk to people about these things I feel incredibly selfish and a burden, but there's no honour in being 'selfless' and keeping those thoughts locked away until you commit the most selfish act of all by taking your own life.

If anyone just needs to talk about these shitty feelings PM me. I've lived with them every day for the past 3 years and I know what you're going through. I know how horrible it feels to talk about it.

 

[Jhye Clark 13]

Thanks for sharing mate. I have also been 'on the brink' so to speak, in the position to take my own life but I talked myself out of it, in the end the finality of death scared me too much.

Just saying what I was feeling to someone I trusted was the most liberating thing I could ever do because now those thoughts were real, they weren't just voices in my own head.

Every time I talk to people about these things I feel incredibly selfish and a burden, but there's no honour in being 'selfless' and keeping those thoughts locked away until you commit the most selfish act of all by taking your own life.

If anyone just needs to talk about these shitty feelings PM me. I've lived with them every day for the past 3 years and I know what you're going through. I know how horrible it feels to talk about it.

The first step is opening up. We all think we're a burden for doing so but it's quite the opposite.

Keep punching brother and may you live a healthy and prosperous life.

 

[rdhopkins2]

Thanks for sharing your stories. So real. So raw. I’m glad you have managed to start receiving help. That’s terrific and I wish you bountiful luck in your treatments and life in general.

 

[Jhye Clark 13]

I read this little story from someone and it made a difference.


One year ago I was standing in an empty apartment, I lost the girl I loved. I was miserable at my job, I spent most days angry at my life and I stood there wondering where I went wrong.
1. Right now this sucks.
2. Soon it won’t.
••
Why am I posting this? Because someone reading this right now is going through the same thing, someone is struggling with life, someone reading this is trying their hardest just to keep moving. You aren’t alone and I can promise you it gets better, but only if you’re willing to make it better.
••
The man I was a year ago doesn’t come close to the man I am today. It didn’t happen by mistake, it didn’t happen overnight and it didn’t happen without more lessons learned in the process. It happened by getting uncomfortable, calling myself out on my bullshit and being honest with myself. I can say I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and it’s because I’m choosing to be.
••
I’ll leave you with some things I’ve learned in a short period of time.
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Happiness is not bought, it is not manufactured and it won’t be found in someone else. Happiness is up to YOU. You must find what makes you tick, what lights YOU up.
••
Friends are important. But not just any friends. Ones that call you out on your bullshit, ones that have your back. Those are the important ones. They will be your “lane assist”when you start veering off.
••
Never ever give up. You’re going to fall a lot, I’ve fallen, tripped, and completely wiped out a lot in the last 9 years. But you must find a way to pick yourself back up. You must learn from those falls and you must seek improvement or else you’re bound to fall in the same exact spot again.
••
Find the things that light your life up even on the cloudiest days. Life is ****ing beautiful and you need to enjoy it. We aren’t here long enough to spend it angry or unhappy.
••
And remember right now it may suck, but soon it won’t. Keep your head high and keep those feet moving.

 

[Perth gal]

My story...

So last year some crazy shit started happening...

I moved house with my son, Covid hit, my Mom got diagnosed with lung cancer, my son ended up leaving for 4 months interstate to study ( he’s back now), a guy that I had liked for 2 years just didn’t want me back and I felt myself slipping outta control mentally with major depression, anxiety and feeling suicidal.
I had to leave work for a month and honestly the year was just horrible. I had two counsellors tell me they couldn’t work with me because I was suicidal, struggled to find help, either they were too full or just useless and so I spent the year in a bad way. I went to the emergency department 4 times. It was horrible. If it wasn’t for some friends, my son and God I wouldn’t be here. So many times I just wanted to die.

This year I finally lucked out and found an amazing psychologist . I finally feel like I am unlocking so many of the things that kept me feeling like I was nothing and that I was to blame for my traumatic childhood. I still have a long way to go but honestly I feel a million times better.
If I could give anyone in the same situation one piece of advice it is this , never give up on yourself and keep trying until you find the support you need. If your GP is crap go to another one. Get a good psychologist, one that understands you and can help you . Yes it’s expensive, get a mental health plan , what better investment than yourself anyway.

 

[PP34]

No

 

[Perth gal]

What’s up

 

[rdhopkins2]

No

Hi mate. What’s happening? Do you need to chat and get some things off your chest?

 

[Xtreme]

Best thing the government could do to improve people's mental health is resign.

That's true Daniel Andrews needs to go!

 

[Stratton_Gun]

I think the day is well intentioned but once corporate companies get involved and pretend to give af about their employees lives, it gets a bit hollow for my liking

By all means though, reach out to family and friends though but not just on the day as it seems like a token gesture

 

[Caesar]

I am good, thanks for asking.

 

[Kram]

Best thing the government could do to improve people's mental health is resign.

fmd do you have to bring the pom poms into every single GD thread no matter what it is about?

 

[Kram]

My story...

So last year some crazy sh*t started happening...

I moved house with my son, Covid hit, my Mom got diagnosed with lung cancer, my son ended up leaving for 4 months interstate to study ( he’s back now), a guy that I had liked for 2 years just didn’t want me back and I felt myself slipping outta control mentally with major depression, anxiety and feeling suicidal.
I had to leave work for a month and honestly the year was just horrible. I had two counsellors tell me they couldn’t work with me because I was suicidal, struggled to find help, either they were too full or just useless and so I spent the year in a bad way. I went to the emergency department 4 times. It was horrible. If it wasn’t for some friends, my son and God I wouldn’t be here. So many times I just wanted to die.

This year I finally lucked out and found an amazing psychologist . I finally feel like I am unlocking so many of the things that kept me feeling like I was nothing and that I was to blame for my traumatic childhood. I still have a long way to go but honestly I feel a million times better.
If I could give anyone in the same situation one piece of advice it is this , never give up on yourself and keep trying until you find the support you need. If your GP is crap go to another one. Get a good psychologist, one that understands you and can help you . Yes it’s expensive, get a mental health plan , what better investment than yourself anyway.

Great to hear you are going better, have always seemed like a nice person.

I'm going fine atm but you have to keep an eye out for anybody else struggling along with yourself, can fly under the radar especially with men that might be more likely to put on a 'brave' face.