Games & Recreation The form slump thread

[premiers06]

Ok I know i'm going to get heavilly bagged for this but here it goes,

For the last few months my form has gone way south. I dont have problems chatting to women but for the last few months I cant seem to seal the deal or the girl instantly is turned off for some odd reason. I dont know really what I am doing wrong and how should I get out of this form slump?
It seems to be with me when it rains it pours and when it doesn't it seems to be a drought that makes the farmers drought of the last few years seem miniscule.

Any advice? I really dont know how to turn it around and i've come to bigfooty for a last resort for help (or a laugh or two).

 

[GOEAGLES 08]

Pictures of these girls would help us determine whether to laugh or not...

 

[SeanConnery007]

Treat em mean, keep em keen.

Works a treat.

 

[r dub 19]

What do you define as "form slump" What do you mean instantly turned off? Where do you meet most women?

Strong questions.

 

[premiers06]

unfortunately i dont have pics these are girls out on the town (forgot last names of girls).

Ok ill use the last time I went out for a mate 21st. There was this girl who was checking me out and smiling everytime I looked (thought I was a monty at this stage). Anyway I go chat to her and we were flirting and stuff and it was going really well and it was even obvious to me she was into me. She was also at a hens night so she said she had to go do some "hens night activities" with the group of girls she was with (fair enough) but wanted me to come find her later as she will be here for a while.
After spending a few hours with my mates I decide to go chat to her after the hen night festivities and we start to hit it off again and eventually she goes "i think you should go hang out with your mates".
So Im a bit like WTF at this stage and ask her whats going on but i dont get a straight answer so i walk off and go back to my mates.

This formula seems to occur in the drought when the girl is keen on me and it has me puzzled.

I hope this makes things a bit clearer

Edit: the places I usually meet women are uni and obviously from this story out on the town

 

[r dub 19]

unfortunately i dont have pics these are girls out on the town (forgot last names of girls).

Ok ill use the last time I went out for a mate 21st. There was this girl who was checking me out and smiling everytime I looked (thought I was a monty at this stage). Anyway I go chat to her and we were flirting and stuff and it was going really well and it was even obvious to me she was into me. She was also at a hens night so she said she had to go do some "hens night activities" with the group of girls she was with (fair enough) but wanted me to come find her later as she will be here for a while.
After spending a few hours with my mates I decide to go chat to her after the hen night festivities and we start to hit it off again and eventually she goes "i think you should go hang out with your mates".
So Im a bit like WTF at this stage and ask her whats going on but i dont get a straight answer so i walk off and go back to my mates.

This formula seems to occur in the drought when the girl is keen on me and it has me puzzled.

I hope this makes things a bit clearer

Edit: the places I usually meet women are uni and obviously from this story out on the town

Did you engage her friends and pay them any attention? If the other girls don't get attention they will get jealous and sabotage you, make no mistake about that. Also I think you may have failed a few of her tests during conversation, this includes "come find me later".

 

[premiers06]

Did you engage her friends and pay them any attention? If the other girls don't get attention they will get jealous and sabotage you, make no mistake about that. Also I think you may have failed a few of her tests during conversation, this includes "come find me later".

Well I had a chat with the wife to be which i thought got me bonus marks and was polite to the friends. Could you elaborate on how you thought i failed the tests?

 

[EagleMan87]

It's a possibility but I didnt really have a massive night, but I may have had enough to make me act like a bit of a dick.

Its a fine line and its incredibly hard to judge if you have had the right amount of confidence juice or not, maybe that might be the problem.

It's hard to tell unfortunately, it could be that, or it could be that she was just a bitch who likes leading guys on.

But that could explain your form slump. If you got shot down from what seemed like a sure thing for no discernable reason, then naturally you're gonna question yourself and not be as confident the next time you talk to a girl.

It's a terrible spiral of shame and self doubt that only ends once you manage to break the drought. Personally, I just get trashed, lower my standards and hook up with whatever creature may come my way. After that you're golden.

 

[r dub 19]

Well I had a chat with the wife to be which i thought got me bonus marks and was polite to the friends. Could you elaborate on how you thought i failed the tests?

IMO, it is the most logical explanation that somewhere during conversation you failed her tests. I can't point out where as I don't know your conversation. Most women have these tests to out a guy to see whether the guy is the same as most guys (white knights). A test for example would be :

"So are you going to buy me a drink"

I think the "come find me later" was a test.

 

[premiers06]

IMO, it is the most logical explanation that somewhere during conversation you failed her tests. I can't point out where as I don't know your conversation. Most women have these tests to out a guy to see whether the guy is the same as most guys (white knights). A test for example would be :

"So are you going to buy me a drink"

I think the "come find me later" was a test.

Ok I see where you are coming from, I cant remember the whole conversation but you are probably right, will need to look out for the signals.

That may just be the problem where i cant just put it all together atm, seems like ive got a bit of work to do before breaking the drought.

 

[r dub 19]

My strategy is usually just to be cocky/funny and if she doesn't bite f*** it. It is better to be this way than to play it safe. The biggest mistake guys make is treating girls as if they have all the power. Found a decent/lulz video on it

[YOUTUBE]l8rqL1-eSlw[/YOUTUBE]

 

[ash_1050]

Personally, I just get trashed, lower my standards and hook up with whatever creature may come my way. After that you're golden.

+1 on this post it's a surefire way to get back in the game.

 

[King Elvis]

rdub, brah, you saying he wait too long to go find her again?

Was she at the same bar as you all night OP?

 

[frantelle]

It really is just simply a numbers game. As they say in the 40yr old virgin, plant as much seed as possible, then **** the plant.

Agree with the video though, if your not confident then don't bother cause you don't stand a chance in the world. Make them laugh, make them smile and be kind of a dick all at the same time

 

[premiers06]

rdub, brah, you saying he wait too long to go find her again?

Was she at the same bar as you all night OP?

Yes she was

 

[Mr Gor]

"come find me later"

** hours pass **

"i think you should go hang out with your mates".

I think something happened in those two hours that changed it. Whether you got drunker, she got soberer, or whatever, something definitely changed. Perhaps her friends had a word to her, perhaps she found a better target than you in between? Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, your form seemed fine. Just the wrong opponent.

 

[King Elvis]

Yes she was

Same bar? Same room? Different floor?

If she was in the general vicinity for ~3 hours and you ignored her, that could've pissed her off.

Or did you do something bad in between that she might've seen?

 

[premiers06]

Well we were in the same reigon but considering she was doing hen night stuff it would be pretty rich of her to be turned off. The only thing I can remotely think of is that I went to chat to one of my friends who had arrived (girl) who was standing by herself as she couldn't find us, which may have seemed like I was hitting on her. That's the only thing i can really think of

 

[whats_at_stake]

My strategy is usually just to be cocky/funny and if she doesn't bite f*** it. It is better to be this way than to play it safe. The biggest mistake guys make is treating girls as if they have all the power. Found a decent/lulz video on it

[youtube]l8rqL1-eSlw[/youtube]

Nice video- funny and makes a good point.

 

[King Elvis]

Well we were in the same reigon but considering she was doing hen night stuff it would be pretty rich of her to be turned off. The only thing I can remotely think of is that I went to chat to one of my friends who had arrived (girl) who was standing by herself as she couldn't find us, which may have seemed like I was hitting on her. That's the only thing i can really think of

She's a girl.

 

[premiers06]

She's a girl.

good point

 

[La Di Da]

Finding her was your mistake IMO. Once you've already got her attention and she is interested let her come back to you.

 

[r dub 19]

rdub, brah, you saying he wait too long to go find her again?

Nope, he came back and did the same as most guys would've done and therefore followed her command (put her on a pedestal) . Personally I would of said "maybe" or "you can find me later"- this shows you aren't at her mercy and you can be guaranteed she is not used to being treated like that, which will create attraction.

I could be wrong in this case and the girl was being genuine but most women are like this, they have little tests to distinguish the white knights from the alpha males.

The only thing I can remotely think of is that I went to chat to one of my friends who had arrived (girl) who was standing by herself as she couldn't find us, which may have seemed like I was hitting on her. That's the only thing i can really think of

There is very little chance of this being a reason, in fact this would more likely increase your chances for a fair bit. Women are competitive and get jealous easily. Being seen/ speaking to other women increases your "value", hence why when guys get a girlfriend there will be an increased number of girls showing interest in them in comparison to when they were single.

I'm sure it was either failing tests or her friends sabotaged you. I think what you should of done is got her number before you left her the first time (assuming you felt enough attraction). If her friends did sabotage you she would only take their advice while they are present to avoid getting shit from her friends. If you have the number you could isolate here and take the friends out of the picture.

 

[Caesar]

Is it possible it's just the stench of desperation? Not having a go, but a girl can smell the slightest bit of nervousness or excitement even when you think you're perfectly normal. There's no greater turnoff.

I've never broken a drought until I simply stopped worrying about it. It's like golf, when you stop overthinking everything takes care of itself.

 

[r dub 19]

Is it possible it's just the stench of desperation? Not having a go, but a girl can smell the slightest bit of nervousness or excitement even when you think you're perfectly normal. There's no greater turnoff.

Very good chance of this being the reason.