The off topic thread

[jod23]

Only Fools & Horses?

I dont go out of my way to watch it but ive of course seen plenty of episodes over the years.

 

[jod23]

No. Unless you have "meh" standards and just want to try and pull a root otherwise it's about as interesting as smashing your face into a wall.

I used it for a bit years ago before getting with my gf (so it might have changed since then) but my experience was like this -

50% of matches were fake profiles selling shit/spamming.
25% of matches were women "oh i don't talk on here follow me on Twitter, Instagram, facebook etc and i'll talk msg you back".
15% of matches were women that were bored and just looking for attention with no intention of ever progressing the interaction.
5% of matches were women that couldn't keep a basic conversation flowing for more than 5 minutes.

The final 5% of matches were women that you would be generally interested in but then you still have to go through all the shit you are going through now - replying then no replies, dates, getting friendzoned etc etc.

I actually couldn't believe how different the experience was for women vs men. My female friend joined up and as a comparison we both spent a night just swiping yes to every profile to see who would get the most matches (we both put minimal information on our profiles and a single picture (we both are the same standard looks wise)).

The different is response was amazing - she was averaging something like a 1/3 match ration whereas mine was 1/30-40. We concluded that men are literally just swiping yes to every profile in order to increase their chances of getting a root whereas women can be a lot more picky purely because they have such a larger volume of willing men to pick from.

Well. That sounds terrible. Haha.

 

[SM]

Well. That sounds terrible. Haha.

Early days it was great because the hotties thought you were genuinely keen on a relationship.

 

[jod23]

She is playing the game and trying not to look "keen".

Obviously wants to see you if she has agreed to meeting up again.

I hope so, hopefully she msgs me back today at some point.

 

[SM]

I hope so, hopefully she msgs me back today at some point.

#teenjoddramas

 

[FAITH]

how many on here have tried tinder?

 

[Spanish Sahara]

how many on here have tried tinder?

I am on it

 

[FAITH]

I am on it

what % are actually real?

 

[Jatz]

Early days it was great because the hotties thought you were genuinely keen on a relationship.

It's still like that somewhat. I've definitely not had the shit experiences above. Not all of them are winners but I've been moderately successful on there and I'm no Brad Pitt.

 

[Jatz]

Date went really well last night. Think I might accidentally find myself in a relationship shortly...

Oh and Cruyff14 , here she is (I know you'll want to know...):

 

[Thistle]

I'm on Tinder because I find it hard to meet new girls working full time and the rest of my social group being in relationships.

It's fun but it can get frustrating with all the dead ends that eventuate. Think it's seen as more than just a hook-up app now and know a few couples who have met through it.

Worth giving it a go jod23 , at the very worst it's a good way to kill a few minutes on the loo.

 

[Jatz]

I'm on Tinder because I find it hard to meet new girls working full time and the rest of my social group being in relationships.

It's fun but it can get frustrating with all the dead ends that eventuate. Think it's seen as more than just a hook-up app now and now a few couples who have met through it.

Worth giving it a go jod23 , at the very worst it's a good way to kill a few minutes on the loo.

That was 100% me. All my mates are still with their gf's they had at the end of school.

I met this most recent one on Tinder. Definitely agree there's a mix on there now.

 

[SM]

Guys. Get with one of your mate's gf's friends. Simples.

 

[elhadjihenry]

I'm on Tinder because I find it hard to meet new girls working full time and the rest of my social group being in relationships.

It's fun but it can get frustrating with all the dead ends that eventuate. Think it's seen as more than just a hook-up app now and now a few couples who have met through it.

Worth giving it a go jod23 , at the very worst it's a good way to kill a few minutes on the loo.

Reading an interesting book atm by Aziz Ansari about online dating which discusses tinder in depth. Most of the research into it claims that the reason people looking for relationships via Tinder are often unsuccessful is because they engage in long-term online messaging relationships with people before actually meeting them and because of this their "judgement" of the other person is flawed, simply due to the messages they send to each other being planned and not a true reflection of their personality.

Apparently the best thing to do is as soon as you find someone you are potentially interested in, organise a meeting straight away and let your brain decide whether they are a suitable partner in person.

 

[Cruyff14]

Funnily enough two girls I ended up being study buddies with to get through my last year of uni I met through tinder. Might have rooted one first, but I don't think tinder has ever been advertised as helping you with uni work but there you go...

lol "might have"

 

[SM]

lol "might have"

 

[Spanish Sahara]

what % are actually real?

I don't know, I don't talk to every match I get nor do I swipe right to every profile.

 

[SM]

I don't know, I don't talk to every match I get nor do I swipe right to every profile.

Rookie error.

I used to mindlessly swipe right to everyone, and then of the ones I matched with I would then apply my selection criteria to that list. I prefer having the power in my hands as usually it's the girls who are picky about who they talk to.

 

[Spanish Sahara]

Rookie error.

I used to mindlessly swipe right to everyone, and then of the ones I matched with I would then apply my selection criteria to that list. I prefer having the power in my hands as usually it's the girls who are picky about who they talk to.

But whats the point in swiping right to someone i am not attracted to or interested in?

 

[bok_party]

But whats the point in swiping right to someone i am not attracted to or interested in?

I agree with this. If I have to doubt whether I'm attracted to them, then what's the point?

 

[bok_party]

Yeah it's the effort that is the killer. I find it difficult to put in heaps of effort for girls im no SUPER into. Considering im very picky, those girls are few and far between, so I often put in minimal effort to get laid. Seems to work most times. But it isnt helping me find a girlfriend.

I dont use Tinder. Should I be on Tinder?

I'm very good at talking in person but I just hate asking those same questions over and over and over again for potentially nothing. I don't even care that I might not get laid but how about being a decent person and perhaps starting a friendship instead?

 

[Spanish Sahara]

I agree with this. If I have to doubt whether I'm attracted to them, then what's the point?

I find myself agreeing with you on most things. Must be a smart man

 

[jd2010]

Rookie error.

I used to mindlessly swipe right to everyone, and then of the ones I matched with I would then apply my selection criteria to that list. I prefer having the power in my hands as usually it's the girls who are picky about who they talk to.

Tinder has algorithims that penalise this apparently.

The more picky you are the better the talent you see

 

[bok_party]

I find myself agreeing with you on most things. Must be a smart man

I've noticed that I agree with you also! Did we just become best friends?!

 

[jd2010]

I've noticed that I agree with you also! Did we just become best friends?!

Someone gif this