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[George]

Yep, she'll be in NSW, me and the younger sister are the two that remained to assist. I've been the one maintaining, currently have phone and net bills in my name for this address, water+gas+elec in his as pensioner, I have paid all previously at one time or another. if it came to the courts then yeah, I could prove as such.

She's intimated that she's fine to be bought out, this is just, we settled on the wake location today, I paid for that in full after being the one to check them out whilst others did other things that fell through, and she has the gall to be disappointed in how I upkept the premises whilst calling ambulances every second goddamn week? That reminds me, time to visit the neighbour...

I'd just give things time mate. Easy to understand that not everyone would be in the right frame of mind at the moment, I wouldn't take those things to heart. Just do what you gotta do for your old man and when you're all thinking a bit clearer then sort out the particulars.

Seems like you have a good enough relationship with your sisters to sort this all out amicably. First three months for me were the absolute toughest, if you can navigate your way through it all then focus on the payout afterwards. One foot infront of the other. Make sure your old man gets the send off he deserves, make him proud in putting that together for him, then once that's been done, reach out to your sisters to get the process started on the estate, will, etc.

You'd need to move a lot quicker if the will or estate were being contested, but it looks like that's not the case so you have some time to breathe a bit at least (without knowing your current financial situation). If your father had a will then it makes that whole process a shit load easier (my old man didn't have one, strongly advise everyone to write one up if you haven't- absolute ball ache if not and they pass away).

Once you have all agreed on what the payout etc will look like, I'd recommend tying that all up by each of you signing a deed of family arrangement and affidavits. Tie it all together with a legally binding document so it's sealed and you each know where you stand. Even if you have a great relationship with your sisters, I'd recommend to do it anyway.

Worry about that later though anyway mate. Just focus on grieving and spending time with your loved ones, do things for your dad, send him off the right way. Other stuff can come later.

 

[George]

We had to go through that a couple years ago with my grandfather. All because the lawyer that did wills for him and his wife forgot to add a bit.

It is disgraceful. I paid $30,000 over 2 years just in legal fees, and that was with the barrister giving us a bit of a cheaper rate given I was paying legal costs for not only myself but my 2 siblings too lol.

 

[Dard Ball Get]

*George

 

[George]

*George

iPhone not letting you tag people now, sport? Oh dear.

Seen this a few times by the way, and always hope it's not real

 

[gringo2011]

Well I was the last one to see my mother alive, was in the room with the younger sister when the old man died after just telling her that if it was my choice, I'd walk out that door as didn't want to see another death in front of me of a parent. It then happened, so seared in my memory is the death of both my parents who I tried to be primary carer for when at home.

About the eating part... the other sister doesn't like anything I had already bought, brought herself microwave meals, doesn't like spicy food, gave me a "very disappointed" talk about the house when I was you know, in visiting him almost daily for like 8hrs+ and in same breath not taking any of the suggestions to fix. So on one side, I have that sister who since airforce is very in your face and confrontational about how you failed to meet her expectations, on the other hand you have the younger sis who was very much daddys girl, whose house I was just at for almost 3 hours as she has NFI how to work anything at her place electrical when we need copies of a will to be certified tomorrow after we spoke with the celebrant for the funeral on Friday after the aforementioned sister just washed her hands and ditched me at her place and drove away.

So I've just now ordered dinner as CBF cooking, and she wants to incur council wrath by putting prohibited things in bins for tomorrow.

TLDR: don't be a middle child. Nothing but pain and suffering.

2nd TLDR: as she wants to sell the estate and I'm in a position to buy out her share, how much of a prick would I be if I did and told her to go back off to her NSW life? Was happy to do the place up, rent it out, move myself, just was never my name on the title to do half the things required.

Oh and as I don't have pets, her dog also slobbered over both pants legs, like literal "this is now damp and moist" slobber, so yeah, not quite happy about things at present as I did washing literally yesterday...

A friend was looking after her mum before she lost her and reckons that hardest part was having nowhere to go or do to distract herself all of a sudden. I think getting the house in order is probably a great way process it all. Siblings seem to go two ways in grief, one always seems to want to clear the house the next day and the others want to run away from it all and not face it.


You wouldn't be a prick offering to buy her out. I'd just be careful how you handle it. People are pretty raw and that can sometimes end up as fighting for the sake of it. Maybe let her know that you're happy to take on that load and let her know what you are thinking up front. She might actually be trying to help you out thinking that you're dealing with a lot.

 

[NoisyMinor]

Dear BF friends,
your Christmas gift this year... is me thats right,
another year of friendship. Your membership has been renewed.


Enjoy you lucky buggers

You've been re-gifted to George.

 

[SaintsSeptember]

You've been re-gifted to George.

I was going to give him to these guys.

 

[Dard Ball Get]

Anyone’s parents or grandparents ever have those plastic covers on their furniture?

 

[Mowman]

You've been re-gifted to George.

Speechless I’m without speech

 

[George]

Anyone’s parents or grandparents ever have those plastic covers on their furniture?

Yes, almost would rip your skin right off on hot days

 

[George]

Funny to watch a bunch of burger flippers talk a big game

 

[Dard Ball Get]

Yes, almost would rip your skin right off on hot days

Oh

 

[George]

Oh

Putting together jokes now are we?

 

[Dard Ball Get]

Putting together jokes now are we?

Chappelle level setup I know

 

[George]

Chappelle level setup I know

Wonder how long you would've kept it in the chamber if I never responded

You're just lucky you're a good lover to me

 

[StFly]

She lasted 3 days until she got a hotel... HTFU airforce.

As an aside, found out she can't have anything with spice in it, as made a curry dish and she instead got a microwave meal. So, sucks to be her I suppose.

 

[Dard Ball Get]

Watched Obama’s new movie. Complete shithousery as expected, as well as mildly alarming.

 

[George]

Watched Obama’s new movie. Complete shithousery as expected, as well as mildly alarming.

Ramping up for the election. Even Charles Barkley has his own woke show to rile up the black vote, hilarious. They're desperate, Trump is ahead comfortably and the minorities that the Democrats pandered to in the last election have turned on them. Blacks will either vote more Republican or not vote at all after seeing the shitshow weekend at Bidens has conjured up after telling them all they'll get their wapawayshuns

 

[PoppedCorn]

Watched Obama’s new movie. Complete shithousery as expected, as well as mildly alarming.

Was his husband in it?

 

[Dard Ball Get]

Was his husband in it?

Big Mike was a fellow (lol) producer on it, yes

 

[George]

Did they go for a dip in the lake?

 

[NoisyMinor]

Was there a disclaimer addressing how many paddleboarders were harmed during its making?

 

[PoppedCorn]

Big Mike was a fellow (lol) producer on it, yes

 

[George]

Coast to Coast shows I'm known as the Globetrotter

 

[Dard Ball Get]

Coast to Coast shows I'm known as the Globetrotter


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Cute knee brace. Wouldn’t be caught dead in such an accessory personally. Have a great sesh!