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revo333 said:
All they want is a nice guy.

But it's so hard to find a nice guy 🙄
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They don't want nice guys.

Also I posted in this thread ages ago that I met my girlfriend via Tinder. Well I lived with her for 4 years. Turns out she was crazy, insecure and depressed. Needless to say another relationship ended. Hard to find good ones online in fact anywhere in this day and age.
 
dales.girl38 said:
Are the guys complaining that girls don't like "nice guys" chasing "nice girls" in return?

I've only ever dated nice guys, but they in return were interested in my personality more than my looks (I imagine).
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I don't look at guys tinder profiles, so I'm not sure if there are any that say 'All I want is a nice girl' 'Why are there are no nice girls out there?'
 
Max Baker said:
Turns out she was crazy, insecure and depressed.

Hard to find good ones online in fact anywhere in this day and age.
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yup the three I’ve dated have been crazy and insecure to the max. Always building theories in there head where I’m gonna screw them over and run away

Enough to drive you insane
 
revo333 said:
I don't look at guys tinder profiles, so I'm not sure if there are any that say 'All I want is a nice girl' 'Why are there are no nice girls out there?'
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Sure, people have different ways of expressing what they want (or what they think they want) and that is more of a "girly" way of doing it, but I think that there are plenty of nice guys out there who are chasing the wrong kind of girl, the same as there are girls chasing the wrong kind of guy.
 
Mazza1234678 said:
yup the three I’ve dated have been crazy and insecure to the max. Always building theories in there head where I’m gonna screw them over and run away

Enough to drive you insane
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My one was chasing a baby off me ffs. Thankfully i didn't have one with her. I saw the red flags early on and chose to ignore them. I paid the price.

Having said that, i think social media has destroyed them. They're constantly on their phones comparing their lives via photos and the like. It drove me insane and it drives them into depression and insecurity.
 
dales.girl38 said:
Sure, people have different ways of expressing what they want (or what they think they want) and that is more of a "girly" way of doing it, but I think that there are plenty of nice guys out there who are chasing the wrong kind of girl, the same as there are girls chasing the wrong kind of guy.
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Thats the whole problem. No one should be chasing. If it happens it happens.
 

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Deliverance said:
I'm assuming 99% of guys are on Tinder just because they are DTF?? It would be hard for a girl to find a "nice guy" there.
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I'd say you'll get both ends of the spectrum. Guys who are just their to DTF and then guys who aren't able to meet girls in real life that are on there but girls find them to be creeps or weird.
 
dales.girl38 said:
Sure, people have different ways of expressing what they want (or what they think they want) and that is more of a "girly" way of doing it, but I think that there are plenty of nice guys out there who are chasing the wrong kind of girl, the same as there are girls chasing the wrong kind of guy.
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People are attracted to what they perceive as unattainable. That's why dudes go for girls that are extremely beautiful, and why girls go for guys that are basically uninterested in them. Generalisation, of course.
 
Tinder has also created a false economy. In a generic bar scene a guy might approach say, 5 girls in a night but a girl would only go home with 1 guy. When you move that to Tinder you get guys swiping on every single girl that appears (guilty as charged and got mates who do that) and in turn, girls are more selective on who they match with. So the top percentage of guys get more matches. Whilst in a bar scene you mightn't be a 8/10 in the looks but can win over with some personality. On Tinder you don't even get to that point most of the time.

I had a date with one girl who openly told me she ignores the hundreds of matches she has and only cares about guys who messaged her because that is how flooded with matches she got. One female friend of mine said whenever she swipes right, she always gets a match. Another told me she had Tinder for 2 hours and had 150 likes.

I have been on and off Tinder for 2 years, doubt I would have had that many
 
when i was on tinder or bumble, my profile simply said "are there any normal girls out there who want to date? good old fashioned dating, with a coffee, a drink, a movie and see where things head?"

i was swamped with messages from girls.
 
por_please_ya said:
It is a real sh*t time for dating right now I imagine. I've seen some interesting stories about people connecting by video call and having dates like that lol. Not the same but it means you connect on an intellectual level rather than physical.
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Worked for me, I found someone on Hinge during lockdown, first few dates via Zoom. If anything it probably helped her with building familiarity in a safe context. Probably also helped that the last few dates she had were with total dickheads, so anyone even halfway decent looked very good to her.
 
Billy ray said:
when i was on tinder or bumble, my profile simply said "are there any normal girls out there who want to date? good old fashioned dating, with a coffee, a drink, a movie and see where things head?"

i was swamped with messages from girls.
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I'm guessing you also don't look like The Hunchback of Notre Dame in your photos, that also helps.
 

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Max Baker said:
My one was chasing a baby off me ffs. Thankfully i didn't have one with her. I saw the red flags early on and chose to ignore them. I paid the price.

Having said that, i think social media has destroyed them. They're constantly on their phones comparing their lives via photos and the like. It drove me insane and it drives them into depression and insecurity.
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Hahaha yep urs seems like what I had, constantly saying she wants a family ASAP, which is fine, but they after things instantly and have no idea to wait for things to develop

like u said social media has them comparing there lives to others and they want things instantly

**** that
 
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Mazza1234678 said:
Hahaha yep urs seems like what I had, constantly saying she wants a family ASAP, which is fine, but they after things instantly and have no idea to wait for things to develop

like u said social media has them comparing there lives to others and they want things instantly

fu** that
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Only to break up eventually and they end up single mothers and we struggle to see the kids. Yep **** that
 
Haven't used Tinder but recently got onto the Bumble.. I think the idea of not being able to message first makes me way more comfortable

Have a pretty good filter system where if they have a pic where they have used that dog-ear filter thing, or if they are at the races or with a horse, that's an easy no swipe

But the one thing that seems to irk me the most is 'BANTER - MUST LOVE THE BANTS - LOVE THE BANTER' - every 2nd profile seems to mention it

So you mean being able to talk to each other? Is that what that means? I would have thought that seems redundant to mention. I don't know why and it's probably irrational but there is something really annoying about that term
 
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