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Sketi said:
Gotta love a bit of PDA.
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It was hilarious tho because when we got to the table we walked passed one of my friends who couldn’t stop laughing.
 

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Back on the tinder train. Matched with one things were going well 3 dates in than plug pulled all of a sudden. Got a text saying she wasn't feeling it. Mixed messages but it's better than an endless text chain that goes nowhere.
The poster above got it right. You can't take it too seriously. Women are spoilt for choice.
Heading away in a couple of weeks (maybe) so need to see where these 2 other matches lead
 
Is it just me or do girls (and presumably guys) go in waves of behaviour? I'm talking collectively, not individually.

I used to find that it was pretty common to get a match, initiate conversation and then just get deleted. Awesome. Then over time that changed to just not responding so you'd have all these matches just sitting there. Awesome. If I wanted to look at Instagram accounts I'd just look at Instagram. Recently I've noticed a lot of girls engage in conversation for one message and that's it. What's the point? It's not Bumble, you aren't going to lose your validation matches...

7:00pm: 'Hey how are you blah blah?'
7:05pm: 'Yeah really good thanks blah blah how are you blah blah?'
7:10pm: 'Great thanks blah blah are you heading away this holidays blah blah?'

*deafening silence*

When that happens 10, 20 times (all different people, all different conversations) I scratch my head and wonder why anyone bothers.
 
Scotland said:
Is it just me or do girls (and presumably guys) go in waves of behaviour? I'm talking collectively, not individually.

I used to find that it was pretty common to get a match, initiate conversation and then just get deleted. Awesome. Then over time that changed to just not responding so you'd have all these matches just sitting there. Awesome. If I wanted to look at Instagram accounts I'd just look at Instagram. Recently I've noticed a lot of girls engage in conversation for one message and that's it. What's the point? It's not Bumble, you aren't going to lose your validation matches...

7:00pm: 'Hey how are you blah blah?'
7:05pm: 'Yeah really good thanks blah blah how are you blah blah?'
7:10pm: 'Great thanks blah blah are you heading away this holidays blah blah?'

*deafening silence*

When that happens 10, 20 times (all different people, all different conversations) I scratch my head and wonder why anyone bothers.
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Happens on bumble. Just text chains that go nowhere. Conversation runs out of steam
 

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Scotland said:
Is it just me or do girls (and presumably guys) go in waves of behaviour? I'm talking collectively, not individually.

I used to find that it was pretty common to get a match, initiate conversation and then just get deleted. Awesome. Then over time that changed to just not responding so you'd have all these matches just sitting there. Awesome. If I wanted to look at Instagram accounts I'd just look at Instagram. Recently I've noticed a lot of girls engage in conversation for one message and that's it. What's the point? It's not Bumble, you aren't going to lose your validation matches...

7:00pm: 'Hey how are you blah blah?'
7:05pm: 'Yeah really good thanks blah blah how are you blah blah?'
7:10pm: 'Great thanks blah blah are you heading away this holidays blah blah?'

*deafening silence*

When that happens 10, 20 times (all different people, all different conversations) I scratch my head and wonder why anyone bothers.
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It's been said before but it's nothing more than a confidence booster to girls with low self esteem. They can gain 100 followers on Instagram pretty easily just by matching with a few boys and having something half flirty in their bio, getting them to think they have a shot.
 
Got a positive message from a moderately desirable woman just down the road from me. Replied, we had a really interesting back-and-forth in messages, my next message was going to be sending my number and migrating to calling, and ... crickets

Just nothing. She's been online since then, zilch.

A few months ago I'd have fretted and wondered what was wrong with me. Not any more.
 

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Over The Post said:
Got a positive message from a moderately desirable woman just down the road from me. Replied, we had a really interesting back-and-forth in messages, my next message was going to be sending my number and migrating to calling, and ... crickets

Just nothing. She's been online since then, zilch.

A few months ago I'd have fretted and wondered what was wrong with me. Not any more.
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Could you picture if it was at a club.

You would go up to them.. have a chat and then sit in silence...

Awks.
 
Over The Post said:
That would make an interesting youtube video. "If Dating Apps Were Real Life."

I have spoken to a couple of women about the messages that flood their inbox and all I have to say is thanks, guys, you make it so much easier for men like me to stand out from the crowd. Keep it up.
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dating apps are real life

this isnt the matrix
 
Over The Post said:
That would make an interesting youtube video. "If Dating Apps Were Real Life."

I have spoken to a couple of women about the messages that flood their inbox and all I have to say is thanks, guys, you make it so much easier for men like me to stand out from the crowd. Keep it up.
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I've seen some of those.

A common one is girl acts like selfish campaigner, gets called out for being a selfish campaigner, complains about guys treating her like she's a selfish campaigner, gets reinforcement for how stunning and brave she is...

Others I've seen are Bumble conversations (where a girl has to at least say hi to get anything in return) like this:

Girl: hi
Guy: do u wear g-strings?

My friend (girl) sent me the one above once (word for word) and I just shake my head. That's the competition? Wow. Meanwhile you match with a girl, look at her photos and bio to see if you have any common ground to start a conversation and go with that and you get nothing or deleted... and unless you have abs like 90s Peter Andrew just saying 'hey' won't cut the mustard either.

You reap what you sow as far as I'm concerned. The number of times I've internalised "Just ****ing respond you rude bitch" would have that many zeroes on the end Google would probably tell me it's a googol. But there's nothing to be gained from it other than a momentary satisfaction of venting. Guy, girl, other - if you treat people as disposable then don't expect anything else in return. I don't know what it's like in big cities but over here everyone knows everyone within a few degrees of separation.

It's not limited to dating apps either. People say all kinds of shit on Instagram accounts of people they've never met or 'befriended'. I can't imagine seeing a girl on Instagram that is a total stranger then private messaging her something then abusing her for not responding to my message or whatever. But it happens. IMO dating apps existing is a security blanket. Even if they aren't on one people know they can get instant gratification so will just stop texting/calling if it suits them.
 
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