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[Neese]

I'm 50 and have never wanted kids. Never changed my mind either.

 

[james Dean]

Kids are ugly, they stink, they rob you of all your individual dreams and goals, and they cost a mortgage to raise, then they grow old and don’t give a shit about you.

 

[Ljp86]

Matched with a girl a few weeks ago... we start chatting... very easy flowing conversations and genuinely seemed enthusiastic and had an amazing connection... seemed genuinely interested in pursuing something with me. After a few days we progress to facebook messager and given that I had just recently moved to Brisbane she suggests we catch up for drinks, naturally I was in agreement.

Anyway as the days progressed she said she was heading camping over that weekend and had night shits after so we organise lunch and drinks after she got back before her shifts. She returns from camping, I message her to confirm we're still good for lunch and drinks, she's still keen, but reschedules it to breakfast instead as the camping group made plans for that afternoon. I agreed, although I wasn't to keen on a breakfast date.

Anyway, we meet up as planned, naturally wanting to impress her but with anxiety i'm nervous as hell, compliment her that she looked nice, found a good cafe. We sit down, and I start sensing she's not interested in being there, suggests we order immediately without even having a chat, we go up to order, I strike up a conversation while waiting... we were getting along well at times and making eachother laugh, but there was little to no eye contact from her, and checked her phone at times. The meals come and just complete silence while she ate. When we finished she immediately suggests we head off saying something like I need to clean up after camping. I start walking with her to her car with awkward conversation.

I message her later in the day being polite thanking her for the date and hope we can meet up again sometime. She messages back a few hours later saying im sorry, you're a great guy, but I just didn't see a romantic connection and I wish you all the best, but i'd still like to chat and do drinks sometime as friends as I do like our friendship.

I ask what the issue was and she's like I kinda knew straight away sorry. You remind me of my brother with how nervous you were
Umm... ok.... Yeah nah.

I reckon you dodged a bullet there, Hatchy. A bit odd that the girl went camping and ended up with the night shits, imagine what happened after you had lunch with her.

 

[Shell]

Kids are ugly, they stink, they rob you of all your individual dreams and goals, and they cost a mortgage to raise, then they grow old and don’t give a sh*t about you.

Wth you complaining about.. you've been dead for decades now.

 

[Beerfish]

but after a hundred people say to you "oh you say that now, but once you hit your early 30s you'll change your mind"

Out of curiosity do all these people have kids?

 

[Shell]

FWIW i think that line is so offensive.

How the **** would you know what someone else wants in their life. Kids or otherwise. Mind ya business.

 

[Sketi]

FWIW i think that line is so offensive.

How the fu** would you know what someone else wants in their life. Kids or otherwise. Mind ya business.

100%, pretty obnoxious attitude.

I got told that as well, but hitting my 30s only seemed to steady my resolve ha.

 

[Shell]

100%, pretty obnoxious attitude.

I got told that as well, but hitting my 30s only seemed to steady my resolve ha.

Yep.

I actually have a real fear of being pregnant. So probably good i cant/wont have kids. Like seriously- everything about it. From the vomiting, to the birth. No. No... and no. Thanks.

 

[Beerfish]

100%, pretty obnoxious attitude.

I got told that as well, but hitting my 30s only seemed to steady my resolve ha.

Yep. Seen so many people have kids just because they feel they should and their lives look like misery.

 

[dales.girl38]

Out of curiosity do all these people have kids?

Yep.

 

[Shell]

Yep.

 

[dales.girl38]

Tell me about it. But when several women say they thought the same thing and then changed their mind, I think there's a chance it might happen to me given that I'm very much undecided on it. So it doesn't bother me that much.

I have friends who are deadset against it though and that same advice for them is definitely shit. One of my friends is trying to get a hysterectomy to help with her endometriosis but doctors won't do it in case she later decides she wants kids. Being a woman hey

 

[Shell]

Tell me about it. But when several women say they thought the same thing and then changed their mind, I think there's a chance it might happen to me given that I'm very much undecided on it. So it doesn't bother me that much.

I have friends who are deadset against it though and that same advice for them is definitely sh*t. One of my friends is trying to get a hysterectomy to help with her endometriosis but doctors won't do it in case she later decides she wants kids. Being a woman hey

Dont get me started.

Look at my post in the med thread. Its bullshit.

 

[james Dean]

Wth you complaining about.. you've been dead for decades now.

Plenty of time to dwell on things

 

[Scotland]

Yep. Seen so many people have kids just because they feel they should and their lives look like misery.

I have friends with 2 kids and all they do is complain about their life (i.e. no sleep and no social life), yet for some unknown reason they want another one.

 

[Scotland]

My sister had a baby to 'save the relationship'... but I still don't talk to her
- Anthony Jeselnik

 

[faible]

Tell me about it. But when several women say they thought the same thing and then changed their mind, I think there's a chance it might happen to me given that I'm very much undecided on it. So it doesn't bother me that much.

I have friends who are deadset against it though and that same advice for them is definitely sh*t. One of my friends is trying to get a hysterectomy to help with her endometriosis but doctors won't do it in case she later decides she wants kids. Being a woman hey

Can be one of those things where you’re ambivalent until / unless you meet the right person.

I’ve got three single (female) friends, one is dead set on wanting kids and has frozen their eggs just in case and would likely have one solo, one wants kids but only if they’re with someone, one is happy not to have kids unless it’s something that happens to be right if they meet someone.

I imagine most people are somewhere in that middle ground where they either want them but only in a stable relationship, or are fairly ambivalent about it. Being in the extreme either way is probably the less common, particularly for men.

 

[HairyO]

Kids are ugly, they stink, they rob you of all your individual dreams and goals, and they cost a mortgage to raise, then they grow old and don’t give a sh*t about you.

When youre old you will be 100% dependent on minimum wage workers for your assisted living.

Good luck with that !

 

[james Dean]

When youre old you will be 100% dependent on minimum wage workers for your assisted living.

Good luck with that !

What difference does it make to me who wipes my arse when I’m senile?

 

[HairyO]

What difference does it make to me who wipes my arse when I’m senile?

You can be old for 20 years and needing assistance before your brain goes.

 

[Run n Spread]

FWIW i think that line is so offensive.

How the fu** would you know what someone else wants in their life. Kids or otherwise. Mind ya business.

It is true why I stay out of things. But I have known people who have completely flipped and changed their minds. So both ways I guess I see why people get wary but if doesn't effect you mind your own f ING Business. One thing I've had cause to consider lately

 

[Shell]

It is true why I stay out of things. But I have known people who have completely flipped and changed their minds. So both ways I guess I see why people get wary but if doesn't effect you mind your own f ING Business. One thing I've had cause to consider lately

My cousin is getting re-married soon. Im itching to ask if theyre having kids.

But i bite my tongue. Hard. I have no idea what their situation is and they've never mentioned it.

 

[Run n Spread]

My cousin is getting re-married soon. Im itching to ask if theyre having kids.

But i bite my tongue. Hard. I have no idea what their situation is and they've never mentioned it.

That sort of thing is OK. And I don't mind am happy to chat.
What shits me with people who insert themselves is it's none of your business. I don't owe them an explanation. Only people you owe are those involved and affected.
Bit like the marriage thing or relationship thing dealt in the past. If I feel like going on Tinder and screwing a different woman each night it's between me and them don't owe you an explanation.
Bit like cheating (I haven't cheated btw) but use the Hardwick thing. He absolutely owes his wife an explanation and to a lesser extent his kids. But none of Richmond's or anyone elses business.
Rant over just pissed off atm

 

[Run n Spread]

I have friends with 2 kids and all they do is complain about their life (i.e. no sleep and no social life), yet for some unknown reason they want another one.

I complain on here. But I think people just like complaining.

 

[Run n Spread]

Back on Tinder. Casual was seeing a couple of matches end of 2020. Both gone and app deleted. May try another app. Tinder is frustrating.
Or try real life. Problem is you need confidence and my life has a few issues ATM. Confidence can't be faked thou. You have it or not.