Men (especially white ones) are privileged. Men who are violent towards women and children are cowards. If some men don't want to hear that, it's not a reason not to say it.That's already happened for a long time though, as others have said.
I recon there are a lot of men, who despite being told they have male privilege, don't feel that way. This is not mentioned much but it could be a big factor. If you are a shitkicker at work, near the bottom rungs socially, don't have much else going on - then being told about your privilege will piss you off, make you think you are missing out on something you are entitled to. And then that sense of entitlement could manifest in this violent way of exercising power over somebody - at worst, at best it probably just builds resentment toward those people (often women) who tell them they are privileged and entitled.
That's where I personally think the messaging to these guys has been wrong. These men actually need guidance and help in growing into better human beings. There is a missing piece of the puzzle that makes up being an adult. Telling them they are cowards or privileged doesn't help much.
If someone is stuck - would you tell them they are stuck, or that with the advantages society has given them they shouldn't be stuck? Or would you try to help them see and guide them along a path out of there?
Men don't walk down the street at night with their car keys in their hand, just in case. Men don't have to think about what they wear, just in case. It doesn't matter whether you're a literal sh1t carter or a CEO, if you're a man you have privileges that women don't. And if blokes wanna have a sook about it that's on them. Men need to start recognising and calling out our privilege, and the impact it has on society, not try and molly coddle people who don't want to hear it.
And if you don't want to be called a coward for bashing your partner, don't f**ing bash your partner.