big weddings -self indulgent crap

[teams]

Haven't any figures but would suspect the more indulgent a wedding, the greater the chance of the job falling a part. Know of a few.

 

[Port1978]

My wedding was at my inlaws place, great view, by the pool, fully catered.We paid under 2000 for 50 guests,including dresses.I paid for the dresses and everyhting for the bridesmaids.

Yeah, the hubby & I didn't spend much on ours either. We only had about 15 guests...it was in the backyard of the house we'd just bought, and the reception was paid for by my mum which came to under $40 a head. Spent quite a bit more on our honeymoon to New Zealand.

 

[funkyfreo]

Well - let me speak as a guy who got married on the weekend.

My wife wasn't in white. She DID have a dress made by a top class "name" Perth designer, which can be dismantled into two beautiful skirts and a top, all of which will be used again many many times - for considerably less than your average wedding dress.

I needed a suit so I bought mine, and my groomsmen all used their own suits.

Interestingly, my wife wanted her bridesmaids to go out and buy dresses they liked and would wear again and again - or even use dresses they already owned - to reduce the cost factor as pointed out by BB - but they actually WANTED to have "bridesmaid" style dresses... go figure?

The reception - well we had 120 guests and we looked into all sorts of cost cutting opportunities, but by crikey whichever way you look at it they are bloody expensive. So all up it was about $90 a head - but bugger it if you go to a ball or whatever that sets you back just as much, but with a wedding you get about 70% back in presents - and with the advent of the bridal registry (which we did online with many many shops and guests were engouraged to ignore the list and just buy from the heart) you basically get things you needed anyway for your new life. So it really is not all that expensive.

And I'll tell you this knowing what a ********ing brilliant night I had with all our matews drunk, soinging, dancing and going absolutely insanely off in a huge way, I'd certainly not change a thing given the chance. Well worth the $$$ - but easy to say because my folks did pay quite a bit of it.

All up I would have to say about: $18,000. Crikey!!!! What was I thinking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Minka Beaver]

The price isn't the thing that bugs me most about some weddings - it's when they're held at a destination far away from where any of the guests live.

My girlfriend's brother had his at a winery at Red Hill outside Melbourne this year - that was good, because the couple provided buses to the venue and back, and had a big BBQ the following day. Most people stayed overnight for the BBQ and didn't have to drive more than an hour/hour-and-a-half back afterwards.

But it didn't work so well for another friend of hers who had to go to Tasmania for her sister's wedding, when many of the invited guests a) live in Melbourne, b) are in the middle of exams or are busy at work in the weeks before the end of their working year. To ask someone to spend the whole weekend dedicating themselves to travelling to and from your wedding when they're busy is too much.

 

[funkyfreo]

The price isn't the thing that bugs me most about some weddings - it's when they're held at a destination far away from where any of the guests live.

My girlfriend's brother had his at a winery at Red Hill outside Melbourne this year - that was good, because the couple provided buses to the venue and back, and had a big BBQ the following day. Most people stayed overnight for the BBQ and didn't have to drive more than an hour/hour-and-a-half back afterwards.

But it didn't work so well for another friend of hers who had to go to Tasmania for her sister's wedding, when many of the invited guests a) live in Melbourne, b) are in the middle of exams or are busy at work in the weeks before the end of their working year. To ask someone to spend the whole weekend dedicating themselves to travelling to and from your wedding when they're busy is too much.

Come on - it was her Sister!!!! She could have said no? I assume the sister lives in Tassie?

 

[- PC -]

What is going on here?

ps before you pedantic ballet dancing picky police start harping on about how not all weddings are like that and sometimes the parents or even bride and groom pay for the bridal party's expenses - don't bother. I'm just talking about the ones who expect the bridal party to pay for it all - and there's plenty of them.

I dont agree with the bridal party having to pay some of the expenses..you have a wedding you know what your in for you pay it.

To digress... never say you want a reception for a wedding..brother in law went to a hotel and asked how much catering would be for approx 80 people for a BIRTHDAY party..he was quoted $25 a head...his wife went to the same hotel a day later and asked how much a WEDDING party would be for approx 80 people..$40 a head..WTF???

Mention weddings and people get as greedy as IOC officials.

 

[Minka Beaver]

Come on - it was her Sister!!!! She could have said no? I assume the sister lives in Tassie?

Nope - the sister lives in Melbourne. I'm told that nobody invited to the wedding is from Tassie. They asked everybody they knew to go interstate for a wedding! Then the family got annoyed at this girl's boyfriend for not attending a wedding held interstate two days before his law exams.

 

[funkyfreo]

Nope - the sister lives in Melbourne. I'm told that nobody invited to the wedding is from Tassie. They asked everybody they knew to go interstate for a wedding! Then the family got annoyed at this girl's boyfriend for not attending a wedding held interstate two days before his law exams.

Maybe they really didn't want sort-of-friends to go Just got angry at a couple of Troy-Longmuirs to make it look like they really wanted people to go!!

 

[Minka Beaver]

Maybe they really didn't want sort-of-friends to go Just got angry at a couple of Troy-Longmuirs to make it look like they really wanted people to go!!

LOL

Just to sort out the wheat from the chaff?