Do Looks Really Count?

[i_luv_westcoast]

I have been reading about this on some of the other threads. In my experience looks do count, with both men and women. A year and a half ago i was overweight by about 15 kgs, and women would not touch me with a ten foot pole. Having lost that weight now, and being much fitter than I have ever been, women will talk to me.

There are two ways this can be looked at. That I now have more confidence with myself, and thus women appreciate this, or alternatively I am easier on the eye so to speak.

I have to say that I think it is pathetic how society has been programmed, so that they have to "look" a certain way. The only reason I lost the weight was so I was fit enough to join the airforce after I finish my Uni degree.

Finally I would have to say women are just as superficial as men. I have experienced constantly being shunned and rejected, and it hurts. Women constantly tell us they don't like to be judged on their looks, so stop being hypocritical.

 

[Bloodstained Angel]

I think everyone realises it SHOULDN'T be this way but in my experience, people with good looks get all the breaks, all the smiles, all the friends, all the popularity, all the good fortune and a seat on the bus every single time.

Of course looks shouldn't matter but in today's world where you are judged not on the strength of your intellect but how photgenic you are, looks are the only thing that matters.

Why else is our society so completely obsessed with how people look ?

cheers

 

[mantis]

I used to go for looks, would never go out with a guy who was overweight, but after realizing that these good looking guys were total p###ks, I thought I would try a short overweight guy, nope still a p###k, so looks don't mean anything.

 

[Beausgirl43]

Well I'm not like that at all.

And I despise people who are.

I take people as I find them... and who has any right to judge the way a person should or shouldn't look.

It takes all kinds to make up this world... it would be pretty boring if everybody was the same.

cheers....

 

[hawkfan5]

Look, I must admit one of the things I look for in a girl is obviously looks, but that is always only a small part of my decision.

The girl I like at the moment has all the good things you would want, she's nice, she's sweet, smart, funny etc etc. the list goes on.

Even though she is really pretty, that is only part of it.

There are so many good things about people that should be taken over looks.

 

[The Hitman]

I don't give a flying f*ck how a girl looks.

Looks are a bonus. She has to be smart, nice, has to have a sense of humour, be loyal, honest, and if she happens to be good looking or attractive, it is a bonus.

Although, blue eyes and brown hair get my attention!

The Hitman

 

[jod23]

Well apparently the number 1 way to attract women is confidence...they thrive on it..or so i hear. Personally, of course its looks, im not gonna sit here and lie about it, i wouldnt go out with a 300 pound chick even if she made me laugh and we got on really well. Half of it is the chemistry and the other half is a physical attraction. And anyways looks are like music, nobody is bad looking or good looking its all about opinion.

 

[TheMase]

Looks are in the eye of the beholder ...

Everyone is attracted to someone.

 

[Stucey]

"My teacher says real beauty is on the inside,"

"Nah, that's just something ugly people say."


Looks do matter, but in the end they fade and all you have left is the personality. So I think a good blend of both wouldn't go astray!!

 

[hawkfan5]

Originally posted by Stucey
"Nah, that's just something ugly people say."

So you though up that phrase stu?

 

[hawkfan5]

Originally posted by jod23
And anyways looks are like music, nobody is bad looking or good looking its all about opinion.

You're exactly right!

 

[Stucey]

Originally posted by hawkfan5


So you though up that phrase stu?

Funnny stuff!!

 

[PiesPremiers]

Originally posted by hawkfan5


So you though up that phrase stu?

Now now, our eddie was only stating the truth. and i tend to agree with you.

Looks DO matter. But thats not all. I'd rather a chick that lacks looks with a good personality, than a good looking chick with no personality.
Okay, a chick with good looks and no personality might be good for a week or so, but after that, whats the point?

 

[i_luv_westcoast]

Pies Premier, what was Dan talking about when he said it's all fun and games until someone lose an eye?

 

[hawkfan5]

Originally posted by PiesPremiers
Looks DO matter. But thats not all. I'd rather a chick that lacks looks with a good personality, than a good looking chick with no personality.

Couldn't agree more.... a good looking chick with no personality just puts me off. Whereas a good looking chick with personality is very lovable.

 

[PiesPremiers]

Originally posted by i_luv_westcoast
Pies Premier, what was Dan talking about when he said it's all fun and games until someone lose an eye?

Its my quote, and my names Dan...
Got nothing to do with the bloke that copied my name....

 

[i_luv_westcoast]

Ok then, just sounded like something Dan_25 would say

 

[hawkfan5]

Originally posted by i_luv_westcoast
Ok then, just sounded like something Dan_25 would say

And you may not have realised but thats 200 posts for you, well done.

 

[GOALden Hawk]

It depends what you are looking for. If you go to a nightclub or pub, of course most people are going to show interest in the more attractive patrons. Because you don't have a clue which ones have the good personalities and which don't, so all you can do is judge them on their appearance, as it's impossible to talk to all of them and see who is the nicest/funniest.

However, if you are looking for a relationship looks really mean nothing. Doesn't matter how hot a girl is if she is dead boring when you talk to her on the phone or spend time with her.

I'd rate humour, loyalty and common interests miles ahead of looks in any relationship.

 

[i_luv_westcoast]

I can't believe I wasted my 200th post talking to a collingwood fan

I think we should start a revolution. The next time you go to a nightclub, put a paper bag over your head. That way nobody knows what you really look like. In doing this you can talk to the other person, and find out if their personality matches yours. If it does you can then take off your paperbag, and play tonsil hockey till your hearts content.

 

[mantis]

Originally posted by i_luv_westcoast
I can't believe I wasted my 200th post talking to a collingwood fan

I think we should start a revolution. The next time you go to a nightclub, put a paper bag over your head.

It will make it bloody hard to smoke & drink though.

 

[meg]

Initially, looks are important... but only to an extent. You have to be attracted to a person to start off with, and obviously this is by their looks. But if they have no personality, then there's no point going on with a relationship.

 

[Portia]

Looks are the midfield and Personality is the forward line.

A good midfield can get you lot of opportunities, but if your forward line sucks, you're not going to score much.

You can have the best forward in the world, but if your midfield sucks, you're not going to get the chance to score.

Ideally, you want average in one, and good in the other....(or better)......too much specialization is a side that needs reworking.

(If only there was a relationship draft )


PS. Stability is the defence, something that you have to watch closely to determine its worth....rarely obvious at first glance.

 

[WA]

Sometimes, I'll meet someone who I think is OK/average looking, but as I get to know them and find that they're a really nice person, they start to seem better looking... if that makes any sense!

 

[kristin5]

Excellent wok, Porthos! Good analogy.