How long should you wait......

[carlyp]

Originally posted by nicko18
LOL... where's Bunsen Burner when you need him?? what a load of ****.

No its not a load of **** at all! Just because Spidey doesnt sleep with any old guy that comes along does not make her a ****er or some such thing. Some people actually work on the whole quality is better that quantity thing nicko!

 

[gPhonque]

Originally posted by Frodo
If you are looking for someone with similar values to those your field of choice is severely restricted and you are unlikely to find true love.

God is a gift...not a restriction...get out there and bonk.

This is bad.....

I'm agreeing with Frodo more and more often.

Summed up what I was thinking.

 

[TheBloods]

Originally posted by carlyp
Read again buddy:

A woman used to many partners is likely to then desire what she had before. Okay the man may do so too BUT the woman is the nestmaker and whilst the breadwinner can be unfaithful and the marriage patched up, the nestmakers dalliance usually breaks the nest.

Ah - I see now. You talked about the first sentence and I was too bored to read past that.

 

[carlyp]

Originally posted by NMWBloods
Ah - I see now. You talked about the first sentence and I was too bored to read past that.

Thanks, Thanks alot buddy




Nah, dont worry I can accept that feminism isnt actually exciting stuff to argue over! It aint everyones deal!

 

[dr nick]

Originally posted by carlyp
No its not a load of **** at all! Just because Spidey doesnt sleep with any old guy that comes along does not make her a ****er or some such thing. Some people actually work on the whole quality is better that quantity thing nicko!

its not the ideals she put forward that i thought was the load of ****, carlyp.

 

[carlyp]

Originally posted by nicko18
its not the ideals she put forward that i thought was the load of ****, carlyp.

Ok well what was your problem with it then?

 

[red+black]

i'm confused. i thought we were in an era where women are worse than the men. difference is men are honest about it.

 

[eagleskickass]

I guess id just prefer to base a relationship pre-marriage on more than sex, and having sex, even once, could make that very hard. And if it sucks in marriage then its not such a problem as its not the most important thing nor the only thing that brings pleasure and joy in the relationship. Take my views however you want, they are what i have come to this year and what i want to stick at. If you want to have sex before marriage go for it, ill wait thanks

 

[Katthawk]

I have to say I am one who if I want it, I'll try and get it as soon as I can. If you are going to sit there analyzing what a person thinks of you if you give it up too soon then they aren't for you.

Life's too short to waste opportunities.

Having said that, I won't give in just because some horny devil tries to charm the pants off me and then tells me I'm a prude because I say no. I do have some moral fortitude and a reasonable level of class.

 

[Blues4Life]

Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
I don't know what is wrong with me but i just believe that having sex with someone is the most private and special thing that you can share therefore i just couldn't live with doing the deed with any old person for the sake of feeling like a root at the time.

I respect that. I don't follow the same guidlines, but if you can stick by those morals, good for you.

 

[mandy]

Originally posted by Frodo
I don't believe in being unfaithful at all in a marriage and I never have been (not physically anyhow).

What does that mean???

 

[Docker_Brat]

Originally posted by mandy5
What does that mean???

Wasn't it George Bush that said he had been unfaithful in his mind many times?

In other words fantasizing about other women.... or men

 

[Bee]

Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
I don't know what is wrong with me but i just believe that having sex with someone is the most private and special thing that you can share therefore i just couldn't live with doing the deed with any old person for the sake of feeling like a root at the time.

Nothing wrong with that, Spidey. I've never been into one night stands or casual sex either. If people want to do it fine, but it's never been something that I've been in to.

 

[Toffeeman]

So many peaple have a physical attraction to somebody and they think its love when it is just lust. They then get married after a couple of years of dating and after a few years of marriage the fire burns out, or the womens sex drive isn't as high as a man's and he isn't getting it as much as he used to, this is why the divorce rate is so high. If you have an emotional connection to somebody the sex is far far better, and for a longer time as well. This is why I said earlier I wouldn't take the realtionship seriously if I was able to shag a girl within a short time pf dating.

 

[TheBloods]

Originally posted by carlyp
Thanks, Thanks alot buddy

Sigh... You said "You said it all in the first sentance Frodo." So I read just the first sentence of what Frodo wrote and was too bored to be bothered the rest of what he wrote. Why is that insulting to you!?!

 

[carlyp]

Originally posted by NMWBloods
Sigh... You said "You said it all in the first sentance Frodo." So I read just the first sentence of what Frodo wrote and was too bored to be bothered the rest of what he wrote. Why is that insulting to you!?!

Sorry, misinterpreted what you said. My appologies!

 

[TheBloods]

No probs!

 

[Blues Angel]

Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
I don't know what is wrong with me but i just believe that having sex with someone is the most private and special thing that you can share therefore i just couldn't live with doing the deed with any old person for the sake of feeling like a root at the time.

Spidey, you are great and I share your views. Unfortunately for me being single for ages and only recently finding someone who seems really nice means I am rather terrified about the prospect of 'jumping back into it' (so to speak).

But I will get there. Now pass me the bourbon and let me sing...

'Like a virgin.....'

 

[Contra Mundum]

WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some of the responses here have been the most astounding I have seen on Big Footy. I cannot believe someone would still make the equation: Man: Breadwinner, Women: Nest Maker - what a load of bullocks! People these days share the load and both partners often work and some blokes are involved in the house work (friggin "nest making"). I am a 39 year old father of two.

George Michael got it right when he sang "Sex is natural, sex is good. not everybody does it but everybody should" - I think the bottom line here is go with the flow and do what you feel is right without any preconceived notions about what the "correct" amount of time is.

 

[lioness]

Originally posted by P_D
I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we haven't. We had been best friends three years prior, and the decision not to is my choice, really... there are some unresolved issues I've had in the past, and that's all that needs to be said really, and he understands. No he isn't gay, yes the poor bastard probably is about to explode with pent-up frustration, but it's the way that I feel, and if he doesn't understand, then he can always find someone else. It's that easy...

That's an excellent way to be!!!! Good on you. I think even with past issues, some girls would feel still feel some kind of pressure (and probably wrongly) to do stuff to keep their man happy, and I guess you're also lucky to have one who understands.

 

[skilts]

Originally posted by carlyp
Hey! If the father wants to stay at home and care for the baby thats all fine with me. Give him paternity allowence for all I care. .

I took the Commonwealth Government to court (three courts in fact), in an attempt to have maternity allowance paid to me, instead of my wife. At her behest I might add. I wouldn't have gone on with it except that on my first contact with a public servant on this issue, the person was so unhelpful and dismissive.

Anyway, I had my day in court, represented myself and as it turned out, inevitably lost. It seems this social security payment is exempt from sex discrimination legislation. Though, I seem to recall it was subject to a 'sunset' clause on this exemption.

The Commonwealth flew in a QC from Canberra and had a junior and solicitor in attendance. My case was only a token protest, because I knew before the sitting that I had no hope of success.

BTW, we were being paid the benefit, the government just refused to pay it into my account, because my wife and I were co-habiting. My wife reasoned that as I was the care provider to our son, it seemed fair that the payments should be in my name.

 

[red+black]

I saw an Australian film A Cold Summer tonight at the Melbourne International Film Festival that deals with the issues of monogamy for one girl, and casual sex for the other female lead. A very funny film that I can highly recommend, but I imagined it being two people from this thread with distinctly opposing views trying to understand the other's lifestyle.