Family & Relationships Surely this is not normal

[chirpymagpie]

My older brother is 18, and for the last 3 or 4 years hes had really bad anger issues. We weren't raised spoiltly, but now when he doesn't get what he wants he'll swear, slam doors etc. All he does is take, he doesn't have a job so he's always asking mum and dad for money, and does shit all for anyone else.
What annoys me most of all is the way that he thinks he can talk to his family. If my mum doesnt do something for him, she's a f***ing c**t and so on. He calls me any word in the book, even called me a f**ing ugly bitch. Would any of you guys talk about a younger sister that way?
We do argue quite a bit, but i can honestly say that it is never started by me. But if someone was using harsh, unnessesary language against me, I need to respond. I do want to have a normal relationship with my brother, but I don't know how to when he is such a disgrace.

How common are young men like this? My Dad has spoken to him about his behaviour a lot, and he never changes, that makes me wonder if theres something psychologically wrong with him.

Is there anything that can be done about him?

 

[The Dice Man]

Drugs. He's taking them

 

[hawksfor2010]

Beat the living suitcase out of him?

 

[Ed_Gein]

Sounds like just a 'word' from your old man isn't enough.

He should be taking a hard line with him.

Your brother obviously thinks he is the man of the house and feels he can get away with anything he wants.

 

[blues4flag]

Have you tried hitting him?

 

[r dub 19]

OP is a girl....

I think?

 

[rocker_oz33]

does he have a job? it seems it like he doesn't like being told want to do.and wants money and thing for nothing.someone needs to take the hard line on him

 

[Wahooti Fandango]

Have you tried hitting him?

OP is a girl....

I think?

Then maybe a bitch slap.

 

[chirpymagpie]

Yes, I am a girl. He's doing year 12 now and uses that as an excuse to not have a job. Theres nothing I hate more than a sponge, does nothing in return for people who do things for him.

 

[r dub 19]

Theres nothing I hate more than a sponge, does nothing in return for people who do things for him.

Dw I'm sure your bf will go down on you eventually .

 

[smiths]

Probably stressed out because he hasn't come out of the closet yet.

 

[Phone]

He calls me any word in the book, even called me a f**ing ugly bitch. Would any of you guys talk about a younger sister that way?

If she was a ****ing ugly bitch, yes.

 

[Power King]

Your brother obviously thinks he is the man of the house and feels he can get away with anything he wants.

He seems to think this way, but there is absolutely nothing to justify it.

Yes, I am a girl. He's doing year 12 now and uses that as an excuse to not have a job. Theres nothing I hate more than a sponge, does nothing in return for people who do things for him.

If you don't have an income and you're in school, then you shouldn't be spending/asking for money unless it's an absolute necessity (eg bus ticket)

 

[BarneyBent]

Not that uncommon in an 18 year old still at school. Not good, but not a major cause for alarm. If he's still acting like that in two years time, then you might want to start getting concerned.

****, when I was in year 12 I didn't have a job and expected money from the parents whenever I needed it. Spoilt rotten by most people's standards. Year later, full time employment, still living at home but not getting any money from mummy and daddy. Year after, living away from home, part-time job and youth allowance covering most of my expenses. Still reasonably spoilt by comparison to a lot of people, but I've grown up a shitload since year 12.

So yeah, being demanding of parents and not having a job is not unusual for a year 12 kid, and the family insults and frustration associated with teen angst is far from unheard of. Not that it doesn't suck for the family, but plenty of people go through that and grow out of it.

 

[bunsen burner]

He sounds like a normal teenager to me.

 

[Hawk Dork]

agree sounds normal

 

[RickSanchez]

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That boy needs therapy!

 

[Lazarus]

I have older brothers but they were never like that.

 

[DoubleO7]

An intervention is needed.

 

[beez]

He must be a Collingwood supporter

 

[Caesar]

There was a thread a while ago where people bemoaned problems with their siblings. Check it out, you'll see its not so uncommon.

My younger brother was exactly the same growing up. He's matured a lot since he's finished uni and got a fulltime job. It'll work itself out.

 

[nicky]

Not trying to trivialise your experience because it sounds pretty awful but it's not too abnormal.

I was a bitch to my younger brothers when i was a teenager. Older siblings are bullies, he'll love you in a few years and be protective over you.

 

[Big Cox]

Get one of your friends to hit on him. That will cheer him up no end

 

[Dawson]

Apparently the best way to get someone around here, is to post his phone number and any number of nuff nuffs will prank his phone - for free

 

[WALL-e]

Do a barrel roll.