- Jun 16, 2018
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Friends, family, colleagues, housemates: do the people in your life actually want you to do well for yourself?
Are they happy for you when you are happy? Are they genuinely delighted to see you enjoying your own success?
Or do they seem to be ambivalent about your fortunes? Disinterested in engaging with your life narrative?
Is it possible that perhaps some of them secretly want you to fail?
Is it possible some of them might even take delight in seeing you crash and burn, your dreams collapse?
Recently it has occurred to me that there may be some truly s**t people in my life. As though the veil has been lifted, and now that I have achieved certain milestones in my life journey, their true sentiments towards me are finally becoming more clear. If this is the case, if those in my life do not truly wish me well, then it is nobody's fault but my own. Cultivating a strong and supportive (real life) social network is an important element of a happy and meaningful life, and if it is the case that I don't actually have one of those, then it simply means that I have invested my time and energy poorly in this regard up until this point in my life.
So now I ask you, my dear bigfooty brethren: do the people around you take pleasure in your success?
Or is it now the norm for the average person to be surrounded by crabs in a bucket -- people who, deep down, actually want us to fail whenever we aim for something more than the average life?
Are they happy for you when you are happy? Are they genuinely delighted to see you enjoying your own success?
Or do they seem to be ambivalent about your fortunes? Disinterested in engaging with your life narrative?
Is it possible that perhaps some of them secretly want you to fail?
Is it possible some of them might even take delight in seeing you crash and burn, your dreams collapse?
Recently it has occurred to me that there may be some truly s**t people in my life. As though the veil has been lifted, and now that I have achieved certain milestones in my life journey, their true sentiments towards me are finally becoming more clear. If this is the case, if those in my life do not truly wish me well, then it is nobody's fault but my own. Cultivating a strong and supportive (real life) social network is an important element of a happy and meaningful life, and if it is the case that I don't actually have one of those, then it simply means that I have invested my time and energy poorly in this regard up until this point in my life.
So now I ask you, my dear bigfooty brethren: do the people around you take pleasure in your success?
Or is it now the norm for the average person to be surrounded by crabs in a bucket -- people who, deep down, actually want us to fail whenever we aim for something more than the average life?