Mod. Notice Mental Health Thread

[MightyBloods]

Anyways, tonight I've emptied the wine, gin & campari. Not a lot, the bottles were almost empty. To bed soon. Tomorrow 3 bottles of wine to deaden the pain and watch the footy.

That's my bye.

 

[caesar88]

Anyways, tonight I've emptied the wine, gin & campari. Not a lot, the bottles were almost empty. To bed soon. Tomorrow 3 bottles of wine to deaden the pain and watch the footy.

Take care of yourself mate, and remember you don't have to go it alone.

 

[bedford]

He trusted me as I put him down. I still can't process that.

Same here

 

[Kiama Chris]

He trusted me as I put him down. I still can't process that.

Dogs know more than we give them credit for. He would just have been sad that it was time to move on.

 

[Kildonan]

We adopted a rescue dog in Mackay who became very much part of the family. (Our family don't think in terms of pet ownership, instead we take on the responsibility of caring for these animals and we have found that the love we give them is repaid many times over). When we adopted her, our youngest daughter was tasked with naming her. She immediately named her Xena. My wife and I looked at each other and stepped in to say that she needed to pick another name (because almost all of our daughter's soft toys were named Xena). Our daughter's second choice was Lucy, so she became Lucy.
We moved to Ipswich after a job transfer, Lucy would have been about 10 or 11 years old when I got a phone call that something was seriously wrong with her and no-one could approach her. I raced home to find Lucy in serious pain and unable to move. She had growled at anybody who had come near, but she allowed me to pick her up and carry her to the car. We went immediately to the vet. After examination, x-rays and blood work the vet explained that she had an injury to her spine and she advised that we put her down.

My wife and I discussed this and we left her there overnight with a nurse while we told the rest of the family. The next day I decided to take her home and see if she might get better. Lucy was paralysed in her hind quarters which meant she had no bladder or bowel control and her hind legs were useless. For some time she tried to drag herself around with her front legs but she wasn't very successful at it. She was responsive to our presence, being happy when I got home from work and eating food with relish. So we persisted.

I used a towel looped under her belly to hold her upright while she ate or drank. After a month or two we found she could stand on all fours once we stood her up. (It was really just three, one of her hind legs could bear weight, the other just hung there). Nevertheless I took this as a good sign. On a whim, I took her for a walk using the towel to hold her up. She loved it, so I began to do this more frequently. Very soon she began to run with her front legs and I had to run to keep up. The neighbors down my street seemed to think I was sort of weirdo, but I couldn't care less.

After about a year, Lucy was able to stand up by herself. She regained some control of her bladder but never really regained control of her bowels, very frequently wandering around with a poo half way expelled.

We moved several more times and each time Lucy moved with us until one day she lay down and just wasn't able to get up again. She wouldn't eat or drink. It was a sad day, we had given her six more years of a fairly good life, but it was time.

I know how you feel MightyBloods

 

[Crimson Azure]

Argh, I can’t even come here to make me feel better any more.

 

[Tedeski]

But the look he gave me before I put him down. It cuts deep. It hurts bad.

That look was a big loving thank you mate.
Nothing other than that & don't think otherwise.

 

[mattpolo8]

My part time work have just joined a mental health program where we can access 2 sessions free of charge. I had my first one the other day.

I've just got into a serious relationship for the first time in over 12 years, and at 36 I don't want to screw it up. I've always been a busy person and am struggling a little to introduce a new person into my life and back off the business a bit to make time for her.

The session was really good and addressed some things I hadn't thought of before and highlighted the fact that this new thing in my life brings me happiness and it's ok to replace some happiness with other happiness.
I booked in a 2nd session

 

[Kiama Chris]

My part time work have just joined a mental health program where we can access 2 sessions free of charge. I had my first one the other day.

I've just got into a serious relationship for the first time in over 12 years, and at 36 I don't want to screw it up. I've always been a busy person and am struggling a little to introduce a new person into my life and back off the business a bit to make time for her.

The session was really good and addressed some things I hadn't thought of before and highlighted the fact that this new thing in my life brings me happiness and it's ok to replace some happiness with other happiness.
I booked in a 2nd session

Absolute best of luck with all of it. Everyone deserves their best life.

 

[bedford]

Very anxious , going back into Hospital tomorrow for shock treatment on heart after the infection , put it out of wack . Im assured it's a nothing minor opp , but just don't like it

 

[Tedeski]

All the best with that Bedders. You’re in good hands so don’t stress.

 

[bedford]

All the best with that Bedders. You’re in good hands so don’t stress.

Ted thank you very much , just got home and it looks like it worked thank god , but sadly heard about another mate passing away this morning after f ing cancer and tomorrow another funeral for an old teammate footy and cricket . Had a very famous brother in the footy world

 

[SwansProudly]

Ted thank you very much , just got home and it looks like it worked thank god ,

but sadly heard about another mate passing away this morning after f ing cancer and tomorrow another funeral for an old teammate footy and cricket . Had a very famous brother in the footy world

 

[Nool Carpenna]

Curious how Mister B fared with his Mental Health First Aid course? Your thoughts on the course and how it's affected your approach to supporting those in need?

 

[Mister B]

Curious how Mister B fared with his Mental Health First Aid course? Your thoughts on the course and how it's affected your approach to supporting those in need?

I found the course very good. It was targeted at working with adolescents so some of the topics covered were not as relevant for my primary school setting however our facilitator did provide us with some more contextually relevant stuff based on his experience. He was a local and was heavily involved at the front line when our local community went through a series of teens taking their lives a number of years back.

The online content was clear and concise, not too much in the way of additional or irrelevant information. Took about 3.5 to 4.5 hours to complete the 10 modules. The face to face session was a full school day and mixed information sharing with opportunities to discuss ad share which I found really beneficial. I would say though, the content does get pretty heavy and I was glad I was doing it with people I feel comfortable with. It does have a way of hitting you where you least expect it.

Where has it left me in my role? I feel much more confident that I would choose to use appropriate strategies when conversing with a person in mental crisis. Having completed some additional questions I am considered an accredited mental health first aider. Having put all of our leaders through this course, we feel it is valuable enough to use the remaining Mental Health In Primary Schools funding towards putting some of our up and coming leaders through the course as well.

 

[GotTheGoodes]

I found the course very good. It was targeted at working with adolescents so some of the topics covered were not as relevant for my primary school setting however our facilitator did provide us with some more contextually relevant stuff based on his experience. He was a local and was heavily involved at the front line when our local community went through a series of teens taking their lives a number of years back.

The online content was clear and concise, not too much in the way of additional or irrelevant information. Took about 3.5 to 4.5 hours to complete the 10 modules. The face to face session was a full school day and mixed information sharing with opportunities to discuss ad share which I found really beneficial. I would say though, the content does get pretty heavy and I was glad I was doing it with people I feel comfortable with. It does have a way of hitting you where you least expect it.

Where has it left me in my role? I feel much more confident that I would choose to use appropriate strategies when conversing with a person in mental crisis. Having completed some additional questions I am considered an accredited mental health first aider. Having put all of our leaders through this course, we feel it is valuable enough to use the remaining Mental Health In Primary Schools funding towards putting some of our up and coming leaders through the course as well.

I've completed the course & am also a "Mental First Aider"... I'd highly recommend it.

I'm an Accountant & see some clients at quite obvious low points in thier careers/lives (e.g. relationship breakdowns, bankruptcy etc)... They come to me to seek reassurance as much as anything. So it certainly helps there. However, often, it's important to try to have a conversation when you usually wouldn't (or wouldn't think to do so). When a client who usually acts a certain way changes, but "is good", it doesn't mean you shouldn't try to approach them when you feel something is off.

Since completing the course I've started a discussion with a longer-term client (when I previously may not have) who, for all intents & purposes, was smashing it. Despite a divorce he was financially as well off as he'd ever been. Had lost a heap of weight, got jacked & looked fantastic. Had been on a long holiday & found a new girlfriend... But I just knew something was off. I'm lucky I asked the question as he opened up to me that he'd been feeling down to the point he'd been abusing painkillers & had passed out (OD'd) in a bathtub in Thailand & had to be revived. After our chat he sought help and is now doing as well as anyone I know.

It's helped me be more present in my dealings with clients. To think outside of just the conversation we are having. I think it's helped me provide much higher quality advice & service.

In fact, I'd like to think it's helped me save a life. You can't put a price on that. Invaluable IMO.

 

[bedford]

Not a great day , had to go back to Hospital to be told the heart treatment didn't work and ive got to go again and if that doesn't work another type of treatment which doesn't sound good .
The worst part is that it was the same place were my mum died 10 years ago today and didn't cope well with it , but a great memory was being together at the 05 and 12 GF , just a great memory
Been a shit time since the NY and it does give you bad thoughts at times , but still here , still being a pain in the arse at times, sorry to all

 

[SwansProudly]

Not a great day , had to go back to Hospital to be told the heart treatment didn't work and ive got to go again and if that doesn't work another type of treatment which doesn't sound good .
The worst part is that it was the same place were my mum died 10 years ago today and didn't cope well with it , but a great memory was being together at the 05 and 12 GF , just a great memory
Been a shit time since the NY and it does give you bad thoughts at times , but still here , still being a pain in the arse at times, sorry to all

<virtual hugs>

 

[Tedeski]

You are in good hands Bedders.
Stay tough mate & think positive.
Don’t hesitate to chat. Plenty good people on here to chat to Bedders.

 

[Bonz]

Dark spot/ day today with a bit of suicide ideation.

First time in a few months (and honestly not sure of the cause, as had a decent day yesterday (Golf lesson, Swans Won, Good Dinner, Played some games with the wife).

Thinking maybe its just due to having some bad luck over the last few weeks (badly torn groin, bad cold/ flu then adverse reaction to covid jab).

Got a trip to Japan planned next month (First real non Fencing related holiday I have had in 13 years outside of gather round this year), was pretty much the entire reason I didn't probably linger on the thoughts a bit longer and start going back to planning (Plus really don't want to hurt my wife).

Still find it fascinating that most people don't actually have these thoughts and I am of a minority, also just kind of proof that whilst I am getting better with these things (night and day compared to last October/ November) its probably going to be a bit of a lifetime battle.

Sorry for the vent, wanted to put this somewhere and well few friends tend to track my reddit.

Have made a few changes over the last few months to try and fix up the mental side of things.

• Quit combat sports (Boxing) and been started golf (I am very shit so has been humbling)
• First big non Fencing related holiday since 2012
• Tried getting up to NSW for a few extra Swans games when I can afford it
• Quit my PT job just to get a little extra free time back

 

[Kiama Chris]

Dark spot/ day today with a bit of suicide ideation.

First time in a few months (and honestly not sure of the cause, as had a decent day yesterday (Golf lesson, Swans Won, Good Dinner, Played some games with the wife).

Thinking maybe its just due to having some bad luck over the last few weeks (badly torn groin, bad cold/ flu then adverse reaction to covid jab).

Got a trip to Japan planned next month (First real non Fencing related holiday I have had in 13 years outside of gather round this year), was pretty much the entire reason I didn't probably linger on the thoughts a bit longer and start going back to planning (Plus really don't want to hurt my wife).

Still find it fascinating that most people don't actually have these thoughts and I am of a minority, also just kind of proof that whilst I am getting better with these things (night and day compared to last October/ November) its probably going to be a bit of a lifetime battle.

Sorry for the vent, wanted to put this somewhere and well few friends tend to track my reddit.

Have made a few changes over the last few months to try and fix up the mental side of things.

• Quit combat sports (Boxing) and been started golf (I am very shit so has been humbling)
• First big non Fencing related holiday since 2012
• Tried getting up to NSW for a few extra Swans games when I can afford it
• Quit my PT job just to get a little extra free time back

Vent away mate - it's a healthy thing to do. The planning you're doing is super healthy. Anything that brings some joy into your life. Take care.

 

[caesar88]

Dark spot/ day today with a bit of suicide ideation.

First time in a few months (and honestly not sure of the cause, as had a decent day yesterday (Golf lesson, Swans Won, Good Dinner, Played some games with the wife).

Thinking maybe its just due to having some bad luck over the last few weeks (badly torn groin, bad cold/ flu then adverse reaction to covid jab).

Got a trip to Japan planned next month (First real non Fencing related holiday I have had in 13 years outside of gather round this year), was pretty much the entire reason I didn't probably linger on the thoughts a bit longer and start going back to planning (Plus really don't want to hurt my wife).

Still find it fascinating that most people don't actually have these thoughts and I am of a minority, also just kind of proof that whilst I am getting better with these things (night and day compared to last October/ November) its probably going to be a bit of a lifetime battle.

Sorry for the vent, wanted to put this somewhere and well few friends tend to track my reddit.

Have made a few changes over the last few months to try and fix up the mental side of things.

• Quit combat sports (Boxing) and been started golf (I am very shit so has been humbling)
• First big non Fencing related holiday since 2012
• Tried getting up to NSW for a few extra Swans games when I can afford it
• Quit my PT job just to get a little extra free time back

Thank you for your honesty and bravery to talk about this Bonz.

You may be in the minority portion of people who have such thoughts, but it is still a portion that amounts to millions and millions of people, including probably even people you know.

And I take my hat off to every one of you.

I'm not really a 'sayings' kinda guy - their repeated and widespread use by others tend to make them resonate less with me personally, to the point they become cliché. But one that I have printed on the wall of my toilet (where else does a guy get a moment's peace alone with his thoughts?) which has really kept me together and focused on finding any sort of light at the end of the tunnel during some of my lowest moments:

Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.

 

[bedford]

Thank you for your honesty and bravery to talk about this Bonz.

You may be in the minority portion of people who have such thoughts, but it is still a portion that amounts to millions and millions of people, including probably even people you know.

And I take my hat off to every one of you.

I'm not really a 'sayings' kinda guy - their repeated and widespread use by others tend to make them resonate less with me personally, to the point they become cliché. But one that I have printed on the wall of my toilet (where else does a guy get a moment's peace alone with his thoughts?) which has really kept me together and focused on finding any sort of light at the end of the tunnel during some of my lowest moments:

Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.

Love bonz and he's good for me as well , just hard to get it out

 

[Tedeski]

Dark spot/ day today with a bit of suicide ideation.

First time in a few months (and honestly not sure of the cause, as had a decent day yesterday (Golf lesson, Swans Won, Good Dinner, Played some games with the wife).

Thinking maybe its just due to having some bad luck over the last few weeks (badly torn groin, bad cold/ flu then adverse reaction to covid jab).

Got a trip to Japan planned next month (First real non Fencing related holiday I have had in 13 years outside of gather round this year), was pretty much the entire reason I didn't probably linger on the thoughts a bit longer and start going back to planning (Plus really don't want to hurt my wife).

Still find it fascinating that most people don't actually have these thoughts and I am of a minority, also just kind of proof that whilst I am getting better with these things (night and day compared to last October/ November) its probably going to be a bit of a lifetime battle.

Sorry for the vent, wanted to put this somewhere and well few friends tend to track my reddit.

Have made a few changes over the last few months to try and fix up the mental side of things.

• Quit combat sports (Boxing) and been started golf (I am very shit so has been humbling)
• First big non Fencing related holiday since 2012
• Tried getting up to NSW for a few extra Swans games when I can afford it
• Quit my PT job just to get a little extra free time back

Champion's post Bonz!
I'm glad to see you tackling it well. Great that you are venting so we can all see that footy doesn't really matter in the end.
It's fun when we are winning but you have shown there are far more important things going on.
You vent any time because there are mostly very good people on the Swan's board.
Some of us are a little f k d up with our views on the club but we'll never let a fellow Blood go it alone.
Thank you for such honesty.

 

[SwansProudly]

Dark spot/ day today with a bit of suicide ideation.

First time in a few months (and honestly not sure of the cause, as had a decent day yesterday (Golf lesson, Swans Won, Good Dinner, Played some games with the wife).

Thinking maybe its just due to having some bad luck over the last few weeks (badly torn groin, bad cold/ flu then adverse reaction to covid jab).

Got a trip to Japan planned next month (First real non Fencing related holiday I have had in 13 years outside of gather round this year), was pretty much the entire reason I didn't probably linger on the thoughts a bit longer and start going back to planning (Plus really don't want to hurt my wife).

Still find it fascinating that most people don't actually have these thoughts and I am of a minority, also just kind of proof that whilst I am getting better with these things (night and day compared to last October/ November) its probably going to be a bit of a lifetime battle.

Sorry for the vent, wanted to put this somewhere and well few friends tend to track my reddit.

Have made a few changes over the last few months to try and fix up the mental side of things.

• Quit combat sports (Boxing) and been started golf (I am very shit so has been humbling)
• First big non Fencing related holiday since 2012
• Tried getting up to NSW for a few extra Swans games when I can afford it
• Quit my PT job just to get a little extra free time back