Health Depression

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Made me a little more depressed in a twisted way- wasnt like my phone was going off with a tonne of offers to do stuff. :tearsofjoy: :$
It was almost the opposite for me. Hadn't had a phone connected to a network for ages because it just stressed me getting calls but I thought with lockdown easing I'd try and join society again, bought a new sIm card and all that, gave number to friends.

Now I keep getting texts and calls and it's stressing me out to no end 😂 I'm reminded of a lyric from my favourite lyricist. "Here's one every time my telephone buzzes, I see images of hooded riders setting fire to hundreds"

But I think I just need keep to forcing myself to engage and eventually, I'm hoping, it just becomes a regular thing that doesn't bother me.

Similar to you, maybe you need to contact people and organise meetings to keep yourself busy? I don't know how you operate, but I know that even if it stresses me leading up to it, once I'm engaged with mates my mind is less preoccupied with it's problems. Even if it's only a few hours, that's a few hours of lessened depression. Even if only slightly.

Maybe reaching out to mates will make them more likely to keep in contact with you?

But you'd know you better than I. I could be way off the mark.
 

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It was almost the opposite for me. Hadn't had a phone connected to a network for ages because it just stressed me getting calls but I thought with lockdown easing I'd try and join society again, bought a new sIm card and all that, gave number to friends.

Now I keep getting texts and calls and it's stressing me out to no end 😂 I'm reminded of a lyric from my favourite lyricist. "Here's one every time my telephone buzzes, I see images of hooded riders setting fire to hundreds"

But I think I just need keep to forcing myself to engage and eventually, I'm hoping, it just becomes a regular thing that doesn't bother me.

Similar to you, maybe you need to contact people and organise meetings to keep yourself busy? I don't know how you operate, but I know that even if it stresses me leading up to it, once I'm engaged with mates my mind is less preoccupied with it's problems. Even if it's only a few hours, that's a few hours of lessened depression. Even if only slightly.

Maybe reaching out to mates will make them more likely to keep in contact with you?

But you'd know you better than I. I could be way off the mark.
Nah ive always had to be the one to make contact. I cannot recall the last time when someone asked me to grab a drink, or whatnot, out of the blue. I have NFI why, but thats the way it is.

Re. not having the phone connected. Can totally relate- when i was really down and out, my mobile was pretty much switched off until really late at night, I'd just check my messages, then go to bed. Couldnt stand the thought of talking to anyone, except for my mum.
 

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Nah ive always had to be the one to make contact. I cannot recall the last time when someone asked me to grab a drink, or whatnot, out of the blue. I
Are many of your friends aware of your situation? I know I've burned a lot of bridges through my behaviour and then there are others that just don't know how to deal with people who are down. I've had friends tell me that they didnt invite me to particular things because they thought it would be too much for me.

Again, your situation could be entirely different, maybe your mates are just dicks 😂 but I know that 99% of the people I've lost contact with, my issues were the root cause.

It does suck though, even if the idea of going out might be a bit much it is nice to be thought of. I just don't think a lot of people are adequately equipped to deal with people that are down. The same way we can withdraw from basic things, normal people can withdraw from us.

I am sorry to hear it though mate, it's not ideal.
 

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Nah i just dont have like "close" mates i guess. Have drifted apart naturally from some others (ie. marriage/kids/etc), one or two have cut off contact with me on purpose (which was very disappointing), so yeah that's probably why.

My friends i have arent dicks tho- they're more than happy to get together once i've msgd..

I've also used meetup.com in the past, they're fantastic. Met a whole bunch of awesome ppl thru that.. hopefully that site can start up again sooner rather than later. Enough of this bullshit online rubbish. I cannot stand Zoom.
 

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Just OT a bit- getting diagnosed with this really opened my eyes up to the mental health system. There i was crying my eyes out in the GPs office (GP i didnt know mind you- it was my mums- i dont have a regular GP anyway)- and its like oh a good psychologist? Yeah thats about a 6-8 week wait, minimum.

The one i could access thru the clinic in like 2 weeks was a complete dick.

Am very happy with the psychiatrist I'm seeing now tho. Was lucky enough to be able to see him within... I think it was like a week, week and a half from that GP appointment.
 

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Just OT a bit- getting diagnosed with this really opened my eyes up to the mental health system. There i was crying my eyes out in the GPs office (GP i didnt know mind you- it was my mums- i dont have a regular GP anyway)- and its like oh a good psychologist? Yeah thats about a 6-8 week wait, minimum.

The one i could access thru the clinic in like 2 weeks was a complete dick.

Am very happy with the psychiatrist I'm seeing now tho. Was lucky enough to be able to see him within... I think it was like a week, week and a half from that GP appointment.
Gee that's not a bad turnaround. I never felt an ounce of benefit from meds or psychs so pretty much abandoned that avenue. Might give it another go.

At least youre persisting with it. I hope that it continues to work for you. I guess not giving up before you've found the right one is the key.
 

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Gee that's not a bad turnaround. I never felt an ounce of benefit from meds or psychs so pretty much abandoned that avenue. Might give it another go.

At least youre persisting with it. I hope that it continues to work for you. I guess not giving up before you've found the right one is the key.
Yeah was extremely lucky- the GP rang the clinic and requested it. They then rang me within 2 days to schedule the appointment.

Trouble is he has the thickest Indian accent. I cant understand him/ have to ask him to repeat himself half the time :tearsofjoy:
 

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A lot of us in here during lockdown were talking about how it was making us feel even worse than normal. Obviously not everyone in here, but I saw a few.

Now that we can go out again it does feel a little stressful. A little overwhelming. Like... What do I do now? But I think it's still preferable to where we were not too long ago.

Anyone that did mention lockdown being particularly bad should be mindful that we at least have more options to get out of our own heads now. We have better access to support networks or even things that bring us pleasure.

I'm trying to maintain a good level of perspective. Things could be worse. It's helped a little, which is a victory.
It was good to meet up with friends but I simply miss old life. Being normal.

Waking up on a Saturday and thinking I might go to the footy today. Maybe I’ll book a trip away. Maybe I’ll go to my mates house for a good time with the boys. Playing footy. Dancing. Meeting people.

Just things you don’t think twice about doing.

I sincerely hope next year things change significantly for the better. They have to. People need hope. Everywhere I go out out of lockdown I can’t help but be reminded that we’re still in a pandemic and we’ve got a government that could change things in a major way at the drop of a hat.
I’m disturbed by the push for us to all be more isolated. Being social around a lot of people has helped me immensely for years. It has affected me terribly being unable to be social this year.
 

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It was good to meet up with friends but I simply miss old life. Being normal.

Waking up on a Saturday and thinking I might go to the footy today. Maybe I’ll book a trip away. Maybe I’ll go to my mates house for a good time with the boys. Playing footy. Dancing. Meeting people.

Just things you don’t think twice about doing.

I sincerely hope next year things change significantly for the better. They have to. People need hope. Everywhere I go out out of lockdown I can’t help but be reminded that we’re still in a pandemic and we’ve got a government that could change things in a major way at the drop of a hat.
I’m disturbed by the push for us to all be more isolated. Being social around a lot of people has helped me immensely for years. It has affected me terribly being unable to be social this year.
Well said.
 

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Hey guys, hope you're doing well. I understand everyone's situation is different and the chemical imblalance and all. As previously mentioned exercise and fresh air are great tools to enhance the endorphins ( feel good chemicals in your brain and body ) so get into a regular habit of introducing both in your life style. Hopefuly injuries don't prevent you from doing that. If they don't, consider yourself bloody lucky that you're actually able to even walk, as some people obviously can't. If you can walk, if you can talk, don't take these things for granted. How really f’ed up would it be if you couldn't do just one of these things, mean while some can't do both. Then your situations would really be bad.


I wish you guys well. Value what you have and value yourselves. I've been in down times like everyone has in their life. It's impossible to go through life unscathed. Sometimes the things that we endure, make us stronger and are one of many chapters in our lives. When you come out of it the other side you'll be a sh*t load wiser and more compassionate towards others, far more unserstanding and you'll be able to relate to them. Even be able to help them.

Speak soon and if ever you feel the need, P.M. P.M me or someone else you feel comfortable with. God Bless you All:cool:
 

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I’ve spent all day and night alone. I hate my life. I just want it to end. I have no one I feel I can go to and just ask can I sit with you so I don’t have to be alone.
 

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Another weekend another re occurrence. Have a somewhat loose appointment Thursday. Do I go all out and say everything and what's happened or keep it in check? Really can't be bothered with GPs and mental health plans but do want help to improve
 
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I wouldnt wanna talk sh*t to my GP- i barely know him (my childhood/early adulthood one retired years ago). Luckily for me my psych is good.
Yeah I'm thinking I should just pull back.
I figure you can just vent to any of those professionals at the very least get sh*t off your chest and get it out there.
Maybe. Venting is good but it can have very real consequences. You get a label and it sticks. Thinking I should cancel don't know not thinking clearly ATM about this. Had a few Gps nice enough but I don't trust them with this.
 

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Yeah I'm thinking I should just pull back.

Maybe. Venting is good but it can have very real consequences. You get a label and it sticks. Thinking I should cancel don't know not thinking clearly ATM about this. Had a few Gps nice enough but I don't trust them with this.
I wouldn't pull back if I were you. That's just me personally though. I find when I do it gives me an "out" to retreat further and only makes things worse.

I think it's natural to not trust your GPs. Can't say I have a relationship with mine.... Couldn't even tell you their name as I avoid going to the same one too often if at all anymore...

I'd stick with it mate. If anything it's a victory to beat that little voice that says "nah chuck it in, it's not working"

But that's all from my point of view, you might be completely different.
 

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I've been glitching a bit lately.

I WAS able to shut out some obsessive and negative thoughts until recently. I saw someone and I thought about him being a loser. Maybe it's because he was wearing a mask so I couldn't get a look at his personality. Then I had maybe one moment thinking about the past. Then overnight I had what seemed like an hour of dreams about the past. I woke up feeling suicidal but it passed.
 

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