Family & Relationships How do you get over a girl?

[eastcoastcrow]

Just wanted to thank all of you guys in here, it is very reassuring to hear others and how they dealt with these things in the past.

Cant believe to tell you that being dark and depressed makes you incredibly tired and exhausted, it becomes like a vicious cycle.

Today though I am planning on showering cleaning myself up seeing the doctor then heading out to the gym.

Its a small step for me.

I find it therapeutic writing in here, it will be good to one day look back and read these comments.....

 

[dbcrow]

Two problems - 1. I'm being a pussy bitch about it. I can't bring myself to break it off with her, especially because I know she likes me a lot. Just the thought of having that conversation and what it would spiral into makes me apprehensive about doing it..

You know what you need to do. Just do it.

And 2. We've booked a weeks interstate holiday in early December, staying in an apartment with her friend and her friend's boyfriend. If I break it off now it would become an incredibly awkward situation, especially after reading your stories about making attempts to be friends with your ex..

Would you really still go interstate with her? I'd cut my losses and not go if I was you.

 

[Caesar]

How is that even possible?

 

[eastcoastcrow]

Anyone else have trouble eating after their breakup? Dropped 5kgs in just under 2 weeks.

I dropped 3 kgs in 10 days.

Its possible.

I have lost all desire to eat/drink. Been sleeping a lot and then back here again. Im fairly confident my ex is ok and been going about her own life without missing a beat. Which when I thought about that last night, motivated me to start moving again.

Today hopefully I can get my head up, shower and hit the gym.

A run, just simple run would help a lot.

 

[Mancey]

Breaking the cycle of wallowing in self pity, mind****ing yourself by becoming a shut in and not eating has to be priority number 1. Lots of ways to do it, one way is to basically bury yourself in work...do overtime, take a couple of extra units at uni or take on some volunteer work.

Volunteer work is a good one actually. I'm part of a friends of the bushland community group and we pretty much go out into urban bushland remnants and clear a few weeds, plant some trees, spread mulch and have a few beers afterwards. I got into it because i love the bush rather than any sort of breakup thing....but getting your hands in the dirt is a pretty cleansing thing to do. Who knows you might even meet a chick there. My group is mostly old codgers and middle aged chicks but they're all really down to earth people with good stories.

 

[Cursed Cat]

Alright GD brethren, I'm in need of some advice.

Been going out with my girlfriend for just over 3 years now. Things have gotten really stale over the past few months, and I find myself wishing constantly that I was single. Grass is always greener, and so forth. I'm still young, and want to move on and play the field so to speak.

Two problems - 1. I'm being a pussy bitch about it. I can't bring myself to break it off with her, especially because I know she likes me a lot. Just the thought of having that conversation and what it would spiral into makes me apprehensive about doing it.

And 2. We've booked a weeks interstate holiday in early December, staying in an apartment with her friend and her friend's boyfriend. If I break it off now it would become an incredibly awkward situation, especially after reading your stories about making attempts to be friends with your ex.

Over to you boys, help a brother out. Also, inb4growsomeballsanddoit.

statistically, women are far more likely to end a relationship than a man.
this is because men are basically lazy, which we misguidedly recognise as being stoic.

personally, i say dump before the holiday, f*ck the interstate trip, you can cash in your ticket and go somewhere else by yourself, or just treat yourself to a lot of alcohol and whores to celebrate your new freedom (or clothes and cd's, whatever you fancy).

you owe it to yourself to be as happy as you possibly can, trust me, a woman would break up with you in a heartbeat if she felt things had grown stale.

good luck, stay classy and don't settle for mediocrity.

 

[eastcoastcrow]

you owe it to yourself to be as happy as you possibly can, trust me, a woman would break up with you in a heartbeat if she felt things had grown stale.

that is so true.

I think some girls are more harder to please.......

Guys are more likely to ride it out!

 

[wce4premiership]

Improving yourself is a sure fire way to feel better. Get fit. Get big. Help others. Learn something new.

Improve yourself and come to the realisation you can and will do better, only time will make you stop thinking about your ex. Keep busy and have fun, don't try act like you're having fun, have real fun, whatever makes you happy.

 

[triplejdude]

Alright GD brethren, I'm in need of some advice.

Been going out with my girlfriend for just over 3 years now. Things have gotten really stale over the past few months, and I find myself wishing constantly that I was single. Grass is always greener, and so forth. I'm still young, and want to move on and play the field so to speak.

Two problems - 1. I'm being a pussy bitch about it. I can't bring myself to break it off with her, especially because I know she likes me a lot. Just the thought of having that conversation and what it would spiral into makes me apprehensive about doing it.

And 2. We've booked a weeks interstate holiday in early December, staying in an apartment with her friend and her friend's boyfriend. If I break it off now it would become an incredibly awkward situation, especially after reading your stories about making attempts to be friends with your ex.

Over to you boys, help a brother out. Also, inb4growsomeballsanddoit.

It happened tonight. I feel like shit at the moment but reading some of the suggestions in this thread helps. Going to buy a gym membership tomorrow before hitting the Uni tav for copious amounts of beer.

 

[eastcoastcrow]

Im sorry to hear your bad news triplejdude.

Im not the best person for advice, however I am slowly getting better and stronger.

There is a part of me that wishes she wanted me back, if anything to validate her love for me, if anything it validates her true lack of love for me!

Its another day and the sun did rise today, so again I am moving forward.

Been drowning myself with movies to watch which has helped and surfing the net. Each person is unique in how their solve their problem.

I didnt make it to the gym yesterday, which is disappointing.

Im hoping to go today, fingers crossed.

Wishing you the best triplejdude. Hang in there the first week is rough.

 

[deled3]

It happened tonight. I feel like shit at the moment but reading some of the suggestions in this thread helps. Going to buy a gym membership tomorrow before hitting the Uni tav for copious amounts of beer.

Good on you for getting it over and done with. Sticking around in a relationship that is done is just a waste of everyone's time. You will have a ripper summer.

 

[rizzo]

It happened tonight. I feel like shit at the moment but reading some of the suggestions in this thread helps. Going to buy a gym membership tomorrow before hitting the Uni tav for copious amounts of beer.

Good to hear you did what was right Takes a big man to pack up and walk away when things aren't right. I'm sure she will thank you in the future.

 

[triplejdude]

Cheers for the responses guys.

I reckon it makes it harder that she thought everything was alright, that we were both happy. It came as a total surprise to her.

Have taken the advice of everyone on here, and told her that I needed time, at least a month or two before talking again.

 

[King Elvis]

As bad as it sounds, you actually did the right thing by her as well.

It's not fair to waste somebody's time in a relationship that you aren't genuinely into.

 

[eastcoastcrow]

Had my first descent meal in 2 weeks last night, went out with my mates wife for dinner.

I got up this morning and proceeded to clean up the mess having lived like a pig for two weeks. I must say tidying it up does help unclutter the mind, heard a song by accident which made me weep. But Im ok.

When you combine this, with hassles at work and ill health you have what is described as the perfect storm.

Im just keeping my head above water at the moment and deep down I am proud of myself for making it this far.

I feel such sadness for those that resort to suicide, to be in such a dark place that their only option of escape is to remove themselves from this world is heartbreaking.

I am appreciative of all the kind words said in here to me.

What goes around comes around. I hope you guys receive good karma for caring enough to offer good advice.

 

[Tiff]

This thread is interesting and very camp.

Everyone's getting their feminine side out. Then you'll go over and get all alpha on each other over a football club.

Hilarious.

 

[Caesar]

This thread is interesting and very camp.

There's nothing more gay than a guy who's in love with a girl.

 

[WALL-e]

lol phags.....that's why I've managed to stay single all this time.

 

[camsmith]

lol phags.....that's why I've managed to stay single all this time.

Oh, really? That's why you're single?

...Cool. Good to know.

Am I all right over there, Alan..?

 

[Tiff]

There's nothing more gay than a guy who's in love with a girl.

I got nothing.

I've got no real advice either. I was with a nutcase for three years who I had constant mind blowing sex with. Then we started getting other girls to come in and did some swinging. Then she started ****ing everything that walked while I was at work and I got fed up with it and broke up with her.

As ridiculous as that all sounds I still missed her and it cut me up for a while. I tend to lock myself away and do nothing after things like that, but I can assure you that's not the best way to go about getting over someone. After being a miserable bastard for a while I eventually started going out again and getting drunk and calling her was happening almost every time. UNTIL, I slept with a woman who to this day I have no idea how an ugly prick like me managed to pull, and any sad feelings or missing the ex disappeared and never came back. Then I proceeded to try and have sex with as many woman as I possibly could for the next three years, not always successful, tried being the keyword. Had a shitload of fun.

Then a nice girl came along and everythings been sweet.

So anway, change your phone number, avoid alcohol for a while, and at least try and have sex with someone hotter than the ex, it'll do you the world of good.

Look at the positives instead of the negatives, you're single, and I'm assuming you have two arms and two legs and a penis. Enjoy it.

 

[nmfk]

Kinda went a little overboard with my ex. Death threats, suicide, calling and messaging every few minutes, begged for her to take me back. Luckily don't have a car or license or might have stalked. Snapped and went crazy. Calmed down now thank god.

 

[NMFCMUFC]

Kinda went a little overboard with my ex. Death threats, suicide, calling and messaging every few minutes, begged for her to take me back. Luckily don't have a car or license or might have stalked. Snapped and went crazy. Calmed down now thank god.

not sure if serious

 

[nmfk]

Serious.

 

[Dan Moody]

Kinda went a little overboard with my ex. Death threats, suicide, calling and messaging every few minutes, begged for her to take me back. Luckily don't have a car or license or might have stalked. Snapped and went crazy. Calmed down now thank god.

Phew
Imagine if you went really overboard

 

[Dan Moody]

lol phags.....that's why I've managed to stay single all this time.

Being as ugly as a hatful of arseholes gives you a leg-up too eh'?