Family & Relationships Visitors dropping in

[HoldenMagroin]

Stand close to your brother-in-law, lift up your shirt then rub your stomach and say "Is this a lot of hair right here, seriously?" Well, it worked for Doug Heffernan, and people simply stopped coming over.

Seriously though, blood runs thicker than a DVD TV series, and it's really up to you to try to be able to feel comfortable around your loved ones. Like Ferris said, you never know when you'll need their help one day.

 

[Schulzenfest]

Have you tried hitting them?

 

[Richard Cranium]

They would of course come with a pissweak present - a bottle of Pepsi, or if you were really lucky a small box of Favourites chocolates.

Not like I'm bitter or anything.

'I show up with ring dings and Pepsi, I become the biggest hit of the party.'

 

[Kruges!]

I don't exactly feel angry when they drop over unexpected, more uncomfortable. Thankfully, it rarely happens, they either call and ask in advance or don't come at all. The thing about me though is if I'm busy when they come over, I am completely focused on whatever it is I am doing at that moment and if they ask me a question, I just don't respond. It may seem rude but I've done it all my life and they know by now that that's the way I am.

 

[Bourky23]

 

[Asgardian]

Live so far away from them that a casual drop in is out of the question.

It works for me

Or live long enough that most of the old family and friends have passed away before you.

That also works for me ...

 

[DeadlyAkkuret]

At one stage we would turn off the TV and the lights and hide in a bedroom until the uninvited visitor left. Eventually the bloke from the Salvos took the hint and left us in peace.

It was the Christmas drop-in which really got me though. Distant family friends who just happen to be driving past your house around mid-afternoon. Not quite rude to appear at lunch, but rude enough to help themselves to the left over turkey and ham.

They would of course come with a pissweak present - a bottle of Pepsi, or if you were really lucky a small box of Favourites chocolates.

Not like I'm bitter or anything.

My nan got me an 8-pack of 200ml Sprite cans this year. Admittedly she did get me some other ok gifts, but I just couldn't get over getting 8 cans of soft drink for Christmas.

 

[Peck]

My best mate always drops over randomely and annoys the shit out of me. I like seeing him, but **** I live in a different house to you for a reason! Thankfully hes doing it a lot less lately, probably because he realised how much he was pissing me off lol.

As for family members popping over constantly, I don't know how to deal with that. I'd suggest waiting it out, as surely they will stop. Or if they don't get it, just don't be home (maybe pretend not to be if possible) when they come over, so that they feel less inclined to try as often.

 

[JR#8]

lol, I hate it when people come over and they don't call first.

My mate always does it, and I'm never home when he comes past. Then he rings me when he is out front asking where I am. lol...it's a bit late to be calling to see if I'm home when your out the front of my house.

Derp!

 

[Gabbie]

What's worse for me is when family from interstate come up to visit my sis-in-law's relos in town and plan on staying a few days or so with me. They assume it's their right to just ring up and say "we'll be up on so and so date and will be coming over to the island" when they know that I'll be around.

I'm expected to cater for these freeloaders who between them earn 4 times or more than what I do. It's my home not their flipping holiday house. I don't mind people coming to stay as long as THEY'RE INVITED. Friends are no trouble, it's family who think it's their God given right to just lob.

As for the poster who had 2 extra uninvited guests on Xmas day. HOW RUDE were those people. I would have served them the scabbiest lunch and said "sorry not much on your plate but we only budgeted for so many mouthes and we didn't include yours".

 

[alex_is_on_fire]

Look, I don't have any problem with them or anyone dropping over, i enjoy the company and welcome seeing them but when they don't ring first or just pop in and stay for 5 or 6 hours, does my head in. If they came over and just stayed for an hour or an hour and a half max, fine, no drama but its not that simple.

Therefore, don't judge me with our knowing the circumstances.

However, what really pisses me of is when they do come over and stay for 5 or 6 hours and just sit there and watch the TV or talk about the same crap over and over again. It's not like I don't see them every week, so i do know what is happening in their lives and they do the same about us because they drop in at least once a week and the same thing happens.

Come for an hour, have a coffee or a soft drink and then leave. easy, but no.

 

[alex_is_on_fire]

Wait a minute... it has taken 12 years for this thread to get started on BigFooty.

In all seriousness I also find it annoying that people-familiy/friends- drop in unannounced. However when they are there make them feel comfortable, offer them some sustenance and/or some form of beverage, and in your situation watch Mad Men S3 with them it might make it more interesting and entertaining that way.

I hope this helps

I do, I'm a hospitable host but it's just that they stay for 5 or 6 hours and I don't know how to polity ask them to leave.

 

[rhinowce]

Just don't answer the door simple, next time you see them just say I was home but I was sleeping and then just say you should of called first..

 

[Oscarman]

Friends almost always call first, but family (especially the ****ing in-laws) just turn up then won't ****ing leave. After about 15 minutes, I go and watch TV or do something outside. The missus can deal with them - it is her mother and stepfather after all. They have a very limited range of topics they talk about which are of no interest to me.

 

[Gabbie]

Here's a tip if you want someone to leave who's just dropped in or annoys the shite out of you. Only if you smoke cigarettes of course.

Do what I do, light up a ciggie and those who are big antis will find an excuse almost within 2 minutes of having to be somewhere else. Works for me every time.

 

[alex_is_on_fire]

Here's a tip if you want someone to leave who's just dropped in or annoys the shite out of you. Only if you smoke cigarettes of course.

Do what I do, light up a ciggie and those who are big antis will find an excuse almost within 2 minutes of having to be somewhere else. Works for me every time.

Yeah, don't smoke but i guess that could work. Saying that, wouldn't it stink your house our?

 

[alex_is_on_fire]

Friends almost always call first, but family (especially the ****ing in-laws) just turn up then won't ****ing leave. After about 15 minutes, I go and watch TV or do something outside. The missus can deal with them - it is her mother and stepfather after all. They have a very limited range of topics they talk about which are of no interest to me.

I know right. If they stayed for 45 mins to an hour, fine and the conversation could flow. I also just leave them to my partner.

 

[Gabbie]

Yeah, don't smoke but i guess that could work. Saying that, wouldn't it stink your house our?

Nah doesn't stink out the house where I live. Open air lifestyle with overhead fans about 10 months of the year with some air con thrown in. Winter means turn off fans but still keep windows open. I get a great sea breeze most of the time so it's a win win for me.

In fact I leave my back windows open even when I'm out - locked front & sidegate plus 2 dogs could make it difficult for anyone to get in.

 

[liam_13]

The Big Bang Theory episode where Howard hooks up with Pennys 'friend?' In that Sheldon just says Ok no more talking everybody go and watches Dr Who.

So my solution is, become a introverted, shy man who doesn't like social interaction or relationships and oh wait.....

But seriously, if you do it in a humorous way (tell them to leave) they might, rather then being serious.

 

[DB10]

"I'm going out with one of my friends at X:00"

easy way to ditch them.

 

[Fuzzy Wuzzy Bear]

Just don't answer the door simple, next time you see them just say I was home but I was sleeping and then just say you should of called first..

This. I don't know why more people haven't suggested this. Tis what I always did. If your car isn't in view of them just say you were out with friends and for them to call next time.

 

[rocker_oz33]

Now thats ordinary & just plain rude. Were they friends of relatives or something or someones inlaws?

l forgot about this thread.they were my girl friends cousins they that she does even get on well with witch make my misuses a bit shitty.l just thought it was a bit rude when l see them give some of the people Christmas prezzies

and now my brother decided to stay another week with out asking.Just canceled his fight and said l saying another week.l really cant say no with my other brother staying at my house aswell.l kinda get the message when they see turning into Mr Hyde.

 

[Marklar_33]

This. I don't know why more people haven't suggested this. Tis what I always did. If your car isn't in view of them just say you were out with friends and for them to call next time.

Used to work for me...but my front door no longer locks and everyone just tends to walk in to our place now (partially my fault for starting the yelling of "come in!"). Also makes it hard to relax while naked around the house...I have actually once had to stand for 90 minutes behind the clotheshorse because I only had a shirt handy

To the OP...maybe something like this "Hey, was just about to watch Season X of Mad Men, care to join?". Surely you are close enough to your sister for this?

 

[Aries]

I have a friend who always manages to pop in when a really good game of afl is on.

 

[Illinois Nazi]

Buy some Michael Bolton CDs.