The Questions Thread

[brahj]

Ok so I am a member of this singles meet up group, there is a Christmas party thingy in the city next month I've RSVPd yes to. Usually I dont even go through the RSVPs to see who is going (because AFAIK they are all strangers anyway so who cares)- anyway, a pic caught my eye. Is dead set a friend I kind of "cut loose" cause we had nothing in common was a bit awks. So yeah she is going.

What are the ****ing odds.

So do i go to the party still?
Do i snob her off?
Do i pretend to act like long lost friends?

Idk.

Stress less. It's not like you're friends, or her opinion of you matters. Just act like a normal human being who has distanced themselves from someone; acknowledge with a greeting if the opportunity strikes which will progress to bullshit small talk and move on.

 

[BotsMaster]

How is how hot a day is determined?

Is the sun closer to earth on those hot days? Are the UV rays stronger?

UV Index

 

[Shell]

Stress less. It's not like you're friends, or her opinion of you matters. Just act like a normal human being who has distanced themselves from someone; acknowledge with a greeting if the opportunity stirkes which will progress to bullshit small talk and move on.

Not stressing. (k maybe a little bit, cause I'm built like that), but yeah just asking.

Yeah probably go the small talk, "hello, how are you" etc, then move on.

 

[brahj]

Not stressing. (k maybe a little bit, cause I'm built like that), but yeah just asking.

Yeah probably go the small talk, "hello, how are you" etc, then move on.

You've got this, kid. I believe in you.

 

[Big Cox 88]

How is how hot a day is determined?

Is the sun closer to earth on those hot days? Are the UV rays stronger?

Air pressure, prevailing winds, lack of or presence of clouds/moisture, troughs etc. Lots of dynamic variables as to why the weather is never the same as the previous day. Solar flares and the sun continually expanding and contracting makes for extremes in seasons in 7 year periods.

 

[No.19]

Ok so I am a member of this singles meet up group, there is a Christmas party thingy in the city next month I've RSVPd yes to. Usually I dont even go through the RSVPs to see who is going (because AFAIK they are all strangers anyway so who cares)- anyway, a pic caught my eye. Is dead set a friend I kind of "cut loose" cause we had nothing in common was a bit awks. So yeah she is going.

What are the ****ing odds.

So do i go to the party still?
Do i snob her off?
Do i pretend to act like long lost friends?

Idk.

Go to the party. Don't go up to her but say the token greeting stuff if she comes up to you, definitely not long lost friends. Have an exit strategy lined up when the conversation gets boring - "well I'm gonna get another drink, was good to see you again" and hopefully dont talk to her again for the rest of the night

 

[JoseMourinho]

Ok so I am a member of this singles meet up group, there is a Christmas party thingy in the city next month I've RSVPd yes to. Usually I dont even go through the RSVPs to see who is going (because AFAIK they are all strangers anyway so who cares)- anyway, a pic caught my eye. Is dead set a friend I kind of "cut loose" cause we had nothing in common was a bit awks. So yeah she is going.

What are the ****ing odds.

So do i go to the party still?
Do i snob her off?
Do i pretend to act like long lost friends?

Idk.

1 and 3.

 

[Shell]

Thanks guise.

Honestly the old stressing/anxious me would have been to not go. And that was my automatic reaction last night when I realised it was her profile on there. But honestly, the friendship was ****ed, we have zero in common, the only thing in common we had, is that we worked at Hoyts together.

I will still go.

 

[Beerfish]

Thanks guise.

Honestly the old stressing/anxious me would have been to not go. And that was my automatic reaction last night when I realised it was her profile on there. But honestly, the friendship was ****ed, we have zero in common, the only thing in common we had, is that we worked at Hoyts together.

I will still go.

If things start to go south just 'accidentally' spill your drink all over her (make sure it's something nasty like red wine). Then she has to leave.

 

[craigos]

Thanks guise.

Honestly the old stressing/anxious me would have been to not go. And that was my automatic reaction last night when I realised it was her profile on there. But honestly, the friendship was ****ed, we have zero in common, the only thing in common we had, is that we worked at Hoyts together.

I will still go.

Just stroll up to her, put your hand up for a high five and say "Hoyts bitch, gimme 5. Now, how's that rash coming along?". You've just eliminated a competitor and become the focal point of the room. Single? Not any more.

 

[Shell]

Genuinely LOL'd

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

How did you end the friendship Shell ?
Did you just drift apart over time or was there a confrontation?

I'm trying to extricate myself from a friendship at the moment. Long story, but this girl seemed really nice and fun when I met her 12 months ago, but has turned out to be super clingy. She was dating a good friend of my brother's, but they broke up about 4 months ago and she's gotten worse since then. She likes and comments on literally everything I post on FB (not a big deal in isolation but the irritants all add up), constantly posts shit on my wall to the point where I've changed my settings to restrict this, will text 3 or 4 times in a row if she doesn't get a response quickly enough, etc.

She and her ex were both invited to my wedding, and her ex was running late. About 10 minutes before I was due to walk down the aisle she tried to pull me aside for a pep talk because she found out that he was about to arrive, and got miffed when I was like "uhhh no, I have to go get ready now..." During the reception she made some very inappropriate comments to my sister in law about her 4 month old baby and generally pissed everyone off.

She hasn't really done anything to me as such, she just annoys the **** outta me. What do I do?

 

[Shell]

How did you end the friendship Shell ?
Did you just drift apart over time or was there a confrontation?
o?

Um- this was a few years ago now. Around about 2010/11 IIRC.

Just kept saying "no", "nah" to all her suggestions that we do something together, and I may have "forgot" to reply to a final text and that was that pretty much. We are still fb friends, but no contact is made over fb, either posting on profiles or PMs. It was all me who ended the friendship really. That's why I sense slight awkwardness, potentially, at this party.

Breaking off friendships is probably way more difficult than breaking up with partners!

 

[Shell]

She and her ex were both invited to my wedding, and her ex was running late. About 10 minutes before I was due to walk down the aisle she tried to pull me aside for a pep talk because she found out that I was about to arrive, and got miffed when I was like "uhhh no, I have to go get ready now..." During the reception she made some very inappropriate comments to my sister in law about her 4 month old baby and generally pissed everyone off.

She hasn't really done anything to me as such, she just annoys the **** outta me. What do I do?

You should have invited me. I wouldn't have pissed anyone off.

Idk.. it's a tricky one. If she is not seeing your "brothers good friend" anymore, then piss off imo, no need to be friends at all anymore.

It sucks tho the other way. My brother was seeing an absolute gorgeous girl (Looked like Rachel McAdams?) and we got along really well. Adios to the friendship after they broke up, is protocol I'd think.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Um- this was a few years ago now. Around about 2010/11 IIRC.

Just kept saying "no", "nah" to all her suggestions that we do something together, and I may have "forgot" to reply to a final text and that was that pretty much. We are still fb friends, but no contact is made over fb, either posting on profiles or PMs. It was all me who ended the friendship really. That's why I sense slight awkwardness, potentially, at this party.

Breaking off friendships is probably way more difficult than breaking up with partners!

It really is. It's super awkward because she's started a group chat with all of her ex's friends (including my brother, his wife and myself) trying to organise an Xmas catchup and everyone is making up excuses.

 

[Shell]

It really is. It's super awkward because she's started a group chat with all of her ex's friends (including my brother, his wife and myself) trying to organise an Xmas catchup and everyone is making up excuses.

You gonna have to get creative then...

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

You gonna have to get creative then...

Please give me any excuses you can think of!

 

[Shell]

Please give me any excuses you can think of!

I am gay..

Oh wait that's to fob off a guy.

Hmmmmm. You have a "family engagement". Family comes first.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

I am gay..

Oh wait that's to fob off a guy.

Hmmmmm. You have a "family engagement". Family comes first.

There's only so many family engagements I can have

I've gotten out of having to do anything in Nov/Dec (thank god for wedding season and xmas parties) but I'm going to be in trouble putting it off any longer. I wish she'd just take a hint!

 

[Beerfish]

You're too upset about Charlie Sheen to see anybody socially atm.

 

[Shell]

There's only so many family engagements I can have

I've gotten out of having to do anything in Nov/Dec (thank god for wedding season and xmas parties) but I'm going to be in trouble putting it off any longer. I wish she'd just take a hint!

Ok this is what you do.

You say "yes I can come"- but stress you have plans for later on and can only stay for a few drinks. That way you get brownie points for showing up, but dont have to stay long.

Or else just tell her to **** off.

 

[Mofra]

Not stressing. (k maybe a little bit, cause I'm built like that), but yeah just asking.

Yeah probably go the small talk, "hello, how are you" etc, then move on.

"People think about you half as much as you think they do"
Situations like this often have the potential to be awkward but in reality are much less so. It's natural to think of worst case scenarios but I'm sure after a drink or two everything will be fine

 

[bok_party]

You should have invited me. I wouldn't have pissed anyone off.

Idk.. it's a tricky one. If she is not seeing your "brothers good friend" anymore, then piss off imo, no need to be friends at all anymore.

It sucks tho the other way. My brother was seeing an absolute gorgeous girl (Looked like Rachel McAdams?) and we got along really well. Adios to the friendship after they broke up, is protocol I'd think.

Interesting this is. My cousins (three guys, one girl) all seem to be friends with their siblings exes. It's not like they were friends before their sibling got into the relationship, they became friends afterwards and still see each other. It's weird as hell. I don't care that they are but have always found it a little strange.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

My sister in law is best friends with her brother's ex. Weird.

 

[bok_party]

My sister in law is best friends with her brother's ex. Weird.

And they became friends after her brother started dating her?