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I had a good friend missing after the Bali bombing who unfortunately turned out to be dead. We waited for a few days of news of him. The agony of waiting is terrible. Having been there, my thoughts are with Broadbridge's family, friends and teammates as they endure this awful time.
 
Its been an interesting 5 days since this tragedy overtook all our lives, and heres a link to help people understand their feelings and emotions.

http://www.york-united-kingdom.co.uk/funerals/grief/

1) DENIAL

In the denial stage we refuse to believe what has happened. We try in our mind to tell ourselves that life is as it was before our loss. We can even make believe to an extent by re enacting rituals that we used to go through with our loved one. Making an extra cup of tea for our loved one who is no longer there, rushing back to tell someone that you have met an old friend. Flashing back to times and conversations in the past as though they are here with us now. Introducing someone accidentally by your loved ones name to someone else. They can all be part of this stage



This is when people say Troy is a good swimmer and is resting on an island


2) ANGER

We get angry. The anger can manifest itself in many ways. We can blame others for our loss. We can become easily agitated having emotional outbursts. We can even become angry with ourselves. Care must be taken here not to turn this anger inwards. Release of this anger is a far better way to cope with grief in my experience.


We get angry at the slightest nuance showing anything less than total shock. And look at those who express themselves differently, like you all those who took TPs words out of context.

3) BARGAINING

Bargaining can be with ourselves or if you are religious with your god. Often we will offer something to try to take away the reality of what has happened. We may try to make a deal, to have our loved one back as they were before the tragic event occurred. It is only human to want thing as they were before.


This is when even non-religious people start talking about praying

''Im not religious but I urge all to pray''



4) DEPRESSION

Depression is a very likely outcome for all people that grieve for a loss. This is what I would consider the most difficult stage of the five to deal with. There can be a the feeling listlessness and tiredness. You may be bursting helplessly into tears. Feeling like there is no purpose to life any more. Feeling guilty, like everything is your own fault. You may find you feel like you are being punished. Pleasure and joy can be difficult to achieve even from things and activities which you have always gained delight. There can even be thoughts of suicide. There are many different ways in which this stage of grief can manifest itself. If you at any time in this stage feel like doing yourself any harm please do seek professional counseling. Self preservation is a must.



This is when this thread slowed down to a walk as all the words and all the emotion left us and we felt hopeless in the face of the enormous challenges ahead. And also the knowledge that prayers and wishes didnt work.

5) ACCEPTANCE

The final stage of grief. It is when you realize that life has to go on. You may still have thoughts of your loved one, but less intense and less frequent. You can here accept your loss. You should now be able to regain your energy and goals for the future. It may take some time to get here but you will.


This is when you start preparing for life wthout the person and go on with life, a little less sure of your place in it all, but strengthened by the knowledge that you had that time with that person.
 
Re: Troy Broadbridge

Howie said:
Let's have no one else copy, repeat or refer to TP's message.
There's a di ck head in every group. It must be his turn.



I agree. He is a strong guy who I think would survive this. Australia is very lucky because of how close it was to Australia. It could have easy been us as well. I just hope Troy survives.
 

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BRE/\|< said:
What about all the other people? Oh, they are certainly not top class professional athletes, are they not?

Disgraceful.


They care about the 80,000 plus people who have died. 10 of thousands who are missing or injured and the 5 million people who need food and water and lots of other stuff. But this is just a special thread for Troy Broadbridge. If you want to talk about the other people make up another thread named, Tsunami in Asia. So please don't say that people don't care about all those people because we all know how lucky we are. It was so close to Australia. Some people think that it might have just hit Australia where there is not many people living so there are not many reports of it hitting Australia.
 
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sainter12riewoldt said:
I agree. He is a strong guy who I think would survive this. Australia is very lucky because of how close it was to Australia. It could have easy been us as well. I just hope Troy survives.

Yeah, we all do.
 
Still in shock after seeing this whole disaster occur. Its good to see that we who are in constant argument about different Teams, beliefs and grammar are showing immense compassion.

I hope that broady will be found alive and i hope that all are giving to the countries who we share so much with.
 
Here are some photos i've got of the first wave of the Tsunami:
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How much longer do we have to play along with the touchy-feelgood 'hope he is alive' stuff and begin to face reality that he is dead without being seen as 'cold hearted' by the moralistic do-gooders?

More than likely his body will never be found now after nearly 5 days
 
Black Panther said:
How much longer do we have to play along with the touchy-feelgood 'hope he is alive' stuff and begin to face reality that he is dead without being seen as 'cold hearted' by the moralistic do-gooders?

More than likely his body will never be found now after nearly 5 days


u ahve to hold on to hope, but it get worse the longer we can not fin him i will give u that
 

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I dont mean for this to sound insensative, and I didnt want to start a thread on it.

But has anyone considered the possability of bodies washing up on the North Western Australian coast?
 
Black Panther said:
How much longer do we have to play along with the touchy-feelgood 'hope he is alive' stuff and begin to face reality that he is dead without being seen as 'cold hearted' by the moralistic do-gooders?

More than likely his body will never be found now after nearly 5 days
It's much to soon to give up hope! The disorganization caused by the magnitude of this disaster has led to difficulty locating victims AND survivors. We all continue to wish for his return to those who love him.
Yet, when we see the devastation and loss of life in Indonesia and Sri Lanka, and to a lesser, but no less horrendous, degree in India and Thailand, it is not cold-hearted to fear he is dead and to even utter the words that you believe he is indeed dead.
But I do not feel a person who hopes he is alive and states those feelings is a moralistic do-gooder nor is that statement touchy-feelgood stuff! If you do not hope he is alive, then you are cold-hearted and inhuman!
Some of us wish to put our hopes into positive statements. Others are pessimistic and have assumed he was lost since soon after they learned about this story.
I guess personality determines how we express our feelings at a time like this. Time will prove whether he is dead or alive. Waiting is truly the hardest part for many people. I cannot imagine what that is like for anybody missing ones that they care about.
 
SaveFeriss said:
I dont mean for this to sound insensative, and I didnt want to start a thread on it.

But has anyone considered the possability of bodies washing up on the North Western Australian coast?

Depends which direction the currents flow. Best to ask a geologist though.

Alot of bodies will end up on the bottem of the ocean and may never be found unfortunatly....
 
SaveFeriss said:
I dont mean for this to sound insensative, and I didnt want to start a thread on it.

But has anyone considered the possability of bodies washing up on the North Western Australian coast?

Will this be the next wave of illegal immigrants to hit our shores. :eek:
Amanda Vanstone will be waiting ready to send the bastards back home again. :rolleyes:
 
Funkalicous said:
Depends which direction the currents flow. Best to ask a geologist though.

Alot of bodies will end up on the bottem of the ocean and may never be found unfortunatly....


Yeah I figured it would depend on currents and tides, and Im guessing because we haven't heard anything on the news that this isnt expected to occur. I just thought that its so close, maybe it could happen.

Without sounding too macbre, I thought they'd float till..er.. consumed.
 

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SaveFeriss said:
I dont mean for this to sound insensative, and I didnt want to start a thread on it.

But has anyone considered the possability of bodies washing up on the North Western Australian coast?



It is a chance of it happening. Australia should send people down there to check.
 
sainter12riewoldt said:
It is a chance of it happening. Australia should send people down there to check.
It could happen, but highly unlikley, the bodies would still be floating in the water if they were going to be washed up on the north coast of western australia.
 
starz said:
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I wonder what happened to that guy....

Is that him just above the head of the guy in the white tank top? :eek:
 

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