Environment GOING ALONE THREAD

[BILC]

No problems going to the movies on my own. You're not there to talk anyway so what does it matter? In fact, people who DO talk at the movies should be publicly flogged.

Concert? Nah. That's a social experience for me.

Been to the pub many times on my own. I'm that guy minding his own business reading a book while sipping a beer.

What's the advantage to going to the pub by yourself rather than just having a drink and reading a book at home?

Not having a go, genuinely intrigued.

 

[JD11]

I don't ever go to movies any other way than alone. Sometimes bring a girl if it's more serious and I can trust her. But, I'd think two males over 20 going to a movie together would be weird as.

 

[Freofalcon]

Went on a Contiki on my own. I always wanted to go to Ireland so I did. Quite a few people go solo on Contiki tours.

 

[electricfeel]

I often go out to lunch on my own. Probably not that outrageous but I quite enjoy hitting up a cafe, particularly one that's always busy, knowing that I'll definitely get a seat since I'll only need a table for one, enjoying a lovely meal and coffee in peace, not needing to talk to anyone.

 

[Damon_3388]

But, I'd think two males over 20 going to a movie together would be weird as.

What about Gene Siskel and Roger Ebert?

Went on a Contiki on my own. I always wanted to go to Ireland so I did. Quite a few people go solo on Contiki tours.

I thought that was kind of the point of those tours, for young singles to go overseas, and meet new people, and see new things, and shag.

 

[JD11]

What about Gene Siskel and Roger Ebert?

Actually, I guess it's not so weird. I just like going to movies alone.

 

[Freofalcon]

I thought that was kind of the point of those tours, for young singles to go overseas, and meet new people, and see new things, and shag.

Yes. Yes it is.

 

[Hudu Gurusingha]

I put this under Environment because I think when people are alone its an environmental issue like clean up Australia day but you are the rubbish instead

ok, so who here is a loner and proud of it, I'm going to a music concert alone for the first time and well to be honest I couldn't give a shit, I like the band, my friends don't so why do I need anyone with me bringing the experience down.

Have you ever done it, maybe not just a concert but what about a nudist beach, or a Aquarium, holiday maybe you went alone in a dark alley, who knows, I'm not going to question you, but you get what Im saying

tell me people about a lonely experience in your life.

I love my own company more than anyone elses.

First concert I went to alone was The Black Keys at The Charles Hotel about 13 years ago. There was a crowd of about 150 people there, most had hung around from the t***ies that were on stage just before.

I love going to Sheffield Shield and the Hopman Cup on my own. I also like going to tennis tournaments around the place to see good players that most would not have heard of.

I like going to the movies on my own too.

I actually recently bought a tennis ball machine so I can train on my own and its one of the best things I've done. Got sick and tired of trying to organize hitting and fitness sessions with the whinging, soft, unreliable hypochondriacs down my tennis club.

I go for dinner by myself all the time, cos I travel a lot for work and when 5pm hits my workmates are the last people I want to be with. Dont feel uncomfortable at all. Go the MCG by myself for footy when Im there for work too.

Cant get over feeling uncomfortable by myself at a pub but.

My best mate just went overseas to watch an NFL game by himself. He loved it.

 

[benchwarmer5]

I regularly travel to various bush reserves by myself to go for jogs and run around like some crazy loner ape man
Been to the movies a couple of times alone and once in a while go snorkeling by myself

 

[BotsMaster]

Being into photography and nature I spend alot time in national parks and gardens alone, it suits me as i love being able to just take everything in without someone bothering me. not sure i would go to a nudist beach with my camera alone though

Do it for this thread and post results.

 

[WCErevival]

What's the advantage to going to the pub by yourself rather than just having a drink and reading a book at home?

Not having a go, genuinely intrigued.

I know a guy that regularly does it to get out of the house. People like the atmosphere. I have been before to watch games that aren't on tv but that's about it.

 

[Scotland]

I have only been to the footy once or twice alone. Always felt bad about it because we had 3-4 seats and that meant a couple of them were going to waste. Otherwise I'm happy to sit and watch the game by myself, I do it at home for away games anyway. Pretty sure there are more commentators involved in the coverage these days than I have friends anyway...

Social conventions are weird. Go to the movies alone, you're a weirdo. Have lunch in a cafe alone and no one really bats an eyelid. The latter involves ample opportunity for social interaction, the former (excluding teenage make out sessions) is pretty much sitting in a chair silently for two hours. I know which one sounds more like the solo activity to me.

I've never gone to the pub to have a drink alone, to me that's a bit unhealthy. Have happily traveled around the world alone, though. Traveling with friends (old and new) is great, but everyone should literally fly solo for a bit at one time in their life. Even if you hate it it's worthwhile.

 

[Morganashlee]

Been to dinner alone quite a few times. The first time was awkward as my phone was dead and I probably seemed nervous which made the waiters treat me like I'd been stood up. The second time I was better prepared and more confident, nobody seemed to care or pay attention to me at all.

Spent a month in Japan for work a couple of years ago and adapted pretty well to being alone. It's much harder in a foreign country where English isn't the first language but overall I think it was great.

 

[TheFreshBanana]

The only problem I find with going alone to the footy, is that the viewing isn't as good as on TV.

Unless you have good seats, you can't see shit on the field, and I spend most of the time looking at the big screen anyway.

The atmosphere is great though, and the thrills of winning is amazing. But really much more enjoyable when you share it with another.

 

[Scotland]

The only problem I find with going alone to the footy, is that the viewing isn't as good as on TV.

Unless you have good seats, you can't see shit on the field, and I spend most of the time looking at the big screen anyway.

This doesn't really have anything to do with lack of company, though.

 

[TheFreshBanana]

This doesn't really have anything to do with lack of company, though.

No clue, haven't read the OP.

Just saying that I wouldn't mind going to the footy alone, if the footy was actually better viewing on the ground than on telly at home.

 

[Silent Alarm]

I finished uni at 2pm on a Friday last semester. A few weeks in and the weather was warming up, my local was across from uni and on the route home, so I went for a solo pint on four or five occasions. It rounded off the week, the sun was out, and so I didn't feel weird about it at all.

But if I was to settle in on a Wednesday night or Saturday at 5, and I'm not sure which is worse, but I'd feel pretty awkward and see it as a bit unhealthy. We don't have the same pub culture as the UK where you can go to the local and going alone isn't at all unusual.

 

[SizeMatters]

This thread

 

[GROTTO]

Been to the movies once or twice before. Enjoyed it. No more, not less, than with company, but the same.

Would you go though to a Tues, Fri or Sat 930pm session on your own??? I think during the day before 5pm is socially acceptable. Day off from work, break from everyone, professional sickie etc.

 

[Nothing]

What's the advantage to going to the pub by yourself rather than just having a drink and reading a book at home?

Not having a go, genuinely intrigued.

Not directed at me, but I used to do it all the time. Watching people is interesting. Occasionally you meet different people. I might have a game or two of pool, I might watch sport on TV, I might go see a live band. More often than not, I'd just sup a couple of beers and enjoy my own company.

If you travel alone and like different things you end up going to things on your own. It's resulted in me seeing some of my favourite gigs. For Silent Alarm if you enjoy a band/DJ/club even where the crowd is tiny, it can be a great way to meet like minded people. Even if you meet nobody, you still get to enjoy something.

It seems weird that people don't go out on their own, at least occasionally.

 

[Zarrix]

Depends where you go and how the place is set up. Some places are good solo, others are better if you are with a group of friends. For example, most British and Irish pubs are set out in a way that make it easier to socialise with just about anyone. That's why if I'm out alone, often go to somewhere like the Moon and Sixpence or Carnegies. Other places with lots of separated tables, such as Belgian Beer Cafe or the Norfolk are just designed for groups of people due to their layout ; going to those places alone is just bizarre unless its for a random lunch meal. Generally save those sorts of places for outings with mates as they are great then.

Don't get the whole stigma attached to going out alone. Most people are too transfixed in their own world to care, and while yes, if you got a good group of mates on the same page there is nothing better, it can also work the other way when you want to go and do stuff/have fun and you got a grumpy or stuck up mate or two who just isn't in sync with you or the rest of your group and the whole night generally sucks. Going alone just has more freedom if you can get the 'oh shit im by myself' thoughts out of your head. Can be hard without a few though because there is an ingrained stigma against it, but its a stigma that makes no sense whatsoever. Plus, no chance of last minute cancellations and the like.

As for the movies, don't get that one either. You aren't there to socialise, the associated social 'faux pas' is one of the most irrational I can think of.

 

[Silent Alarm]

But most people tend to go out with the hope of pulling.

Doing that alone seems pretty gross. And incredibly lonely. And you stay sober... you look like you're a sex offender... you drink before hand by yourself and that doesn't sing rockstar evening...

 

[Zarrix]

Doing that alone seems pretty gross. And incredibly lonely. And you stay sober... you look like you're a sex offender... you drink before hand by yourself and that doesn't sing rockstar evening...

Most people just want to talk with people who are sure of themselves and having fun, they don't care if they have ten mates or one. It's just that a lot of people can only convey that positive image when they have a bunch of friends around them. Being alone while out isn't intrinsically bad, it is just that people act anxious when they are alone and don't allow themselves to let loose and enjoy themselves. It's all in the mind and what is in the mind reveals itself in physical form and it is such negative thoughts that act as a repellent.

Don't get me wrong, it's difficult to get these widely belived thoughts that are ingrained into your thinking patterns out of your mind. I myself haven't gotten close to doing so, but its a long process because they are a product of years of knowledge and experience and stick there like that piece of gum on the footpath.

 

[BALKAN]

But most people tend to go out with the hope of pulling.

I think that's incorrect and desperate.

 

[Bomberboyokay]

Silent Alarm you overthink things.