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Sounds good in theory but it needs a qualifier; it matters what your other half thinks, it matters what your boss thinks, it can matter what the rest of society think.
Things you only learned later in life ( and wish you knew earlier)
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GotTheGoodes
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Unless they are a judge, jury member, law enforcement officer etc etc.
Shell
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When guys say "they don't want to be in a relationship" trust me, they do not.
No exceptions.
No exceptions.
That's incorrect actually, if Scarlett Johannson comes along and wants to have their babies then they're up for a relationship.
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This. Also don't be afraid to tackle small problems deceively however unpleasant. Most big problems are not 1 but rather made up of many unresolved small ones.
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Added to this: If the problem looks too big, take a step back and assess the size of it. Then attack it brick by brick
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When girls say "they don't want to be in a relationship" trust me, they do not. Or they do. Or they might. Or they do, but they don't, and they just need to be single for a while to find themselves, but they're totally ready if the right guy comes along, as long as they're in the right space, and...
Shell
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When girls say "they don't want to be in a relationship" trust me, they do not. Or they do. Or they might. Or they do, but they don't, and they just need to be single for a while to find themselves, but they're totally ready if the right guy comes along, as long as they're in the right space, and...
Your point?
When you start changing those things that you know to be wrong about yourself.
We're probably very similar in that regard - I've always hated things about myself but would refuse to change for whatever reason. They were personality traits or behaviours that I knew were self-destructive, negative and/or lazy. The voice in the back of my head would tell me to stop doing them constantly since I was a young kid, or after the fact, would lament making the same mistakes again. Yet I'd just go on and do them.
There's still a lot of things I need to work on to make me a better person (as I see it). But I'm getting there. I'm 32 now and probably started sorting myself out only a few years ago. Long way to go, but I'm already much happier now, for what that's worth. At the very least, I feel like I'm producing more good in the world than bad (or wastage).
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Wish I had've bought an investment property earlier.
Wojcinski
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This is really good advice, I know I've made a few mistakes by following the advice of friends/family/co-workers even when in the back of my mind I wasn't confident in what they were telling me.
HBF
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Yep, know how you feel.
Kick myself everytime I think about it.
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Real estate regret is really just something for the over 30s. By the time I started working house prices had already boomed and bank interest rates were hovering around 8%. I worked with people only 3-4 years older who had 6 figure salaries and loan:income ratios of about 2:1. They thought they were clever but it was just right place, right time stuff. Frustrating that the same opportunities weren't there for me, but such is life. Not a regret.
What I do wish I'd learned earlier having grown up in real estate obsessed Australia is that the value of your home adds no value to your life. So many people just don't get this.
What I do wish I'd learned earlier having grown up in real estate obsessed Australia is that the value of your home adds no value to your life. So many people just don't get this.
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Just be comfortable in your own shoes rather than wanting to walk in someone else's. You see only the successes - you don't know their history, the hurts, the mistakes.
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Love to agree 100%. But as above: Partners, Employers, Judges and Jury Members, Family etc
I think it is more you can't control what others think of you so it is a waste of time trying. Some people will take a set against you for whatever reason. And there is not a thing you can do about it. You can't control what they think of you and vice versa.
Your best bet is to try and surround yourself with good people and protect yourself when things go awry for whatever reason.
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Should have done the course I am completing a Grad Dip in now as a Degree instead of the Engineering one I took.
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Don’t worry about what you can’t change.
Sounds really obvious but I have lost half a life’s sleep time panicking over things I may as well have just let ride. That and learning (and sometimes you do have to actively train yourself) to be content in the moment are two of the most valuable learnings I can think of.
Sounds really obvious but I have lost half a life’s sleep time panicking over things I may as well have just let ride. That and learning (and sometimes you do have to actively train yourself) to be content in the moment are two of the most valuable learnings I can think of.
Happiness truly comes for your own self esteem and the rships you have with friends/partners etc
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You will make bad decisions. You will * up royally. You will take the wrong road.
But all you can ever do in life is call it as you see it. Just try and be a good person or failing that don't screw anyone over.
Just do your best.......................................................................................................................................................................................
Buuuuuuuuuuuttttttttt: If things really really go bad try and make sense of it with grace and humility. Don't crack the shits with people..............I don't believe in regrets but I really really wish I could take certain things back.
But all you can ever do in life is call it as you see it. Just try and be a good person or failing that don't screw anyone over.
Just do your best.......................................................................................................................................................................................
Buuuuuuuuuuuttttttttt: If things really really go bad try and make sense of it with grace and humility. Don't crack the shits with people..............I don't believe in regrets but I really really wish I could take certain things back.
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How much of an absolute, attention seeking, insufferable maggot I was from 11yo and onwards. And how I deserved what I got in school as a result.
All experiences are good experiences, especially the bad ones.
Never miss a chance to go somewhere you haven't been before.
Never trade the number 1 draft pick.
Never miss a chance to go somewhere you haven't been before.
Never trade the number 1 draft pick.
