What makes a man? Not physical man but cultural man. Its hard to describe but it feels like it does exist. So why dont we list the attributes or behaviours that make us feel more manly. Here are some of mine:
- taking a punch and getting up.
- realising I prefer a smoky whisky over conventional beer
- winning at sports (doesnt matter if its aussie rules or mixed netball)
- finishing adam smiths wealth of nations
- listening to heavy metal
- just not giving a sh*t about office politics
- watching rocky movies and war documentaries
- developing a theory on the meaning of life (man is a philosopher)
- helping your wife work through and rationally deal with all the tiny insiginficant things that happen to her that she considers a disaster (this is a daily problem).
- drving a car (cant explain this one)
- protecting my kids from a snake.
Now here are things that I would of thought would make me feel like a man but didnt
- smoking a cigarette (just made me feel stupid)
- sex. Something about the act of sex with a women that feels distinctly feminine- i enjoy it immensely but manly is not the term i would use to describe the overall experience. Perhaps its because it involves too much spooning, foreplay, french kissing, looking into each others eyes and cuddling. These more than ofset the parts of sex that do feel manly.
- wearing a suit and tie and fancy watch (again this feels feminine like im dressing up in bling and uncomfortable clothes to look attractive to the opposite sex).
- holding my child for the first time. Again it doesnt feel manly.
now over to you?
- taking a punch and getting up.
- realising I prefer a smoky whisky over conventional beer
- winning at sports (doesnt matter if its aussie rules or mixed netball)
- finishing adam smiths wealth of nations
- listening to heavy metal
- just not giving a sh*t about office politics
- watching rocky movies and war documentaries
- developing a theory on the meaning of life (man is a philosopher)
- helping your wife work through and rationally deal with all the tiny insiginficant things that happen to her that she considers a disaster (this is a daily problem).
- drving a car (cant explain this one)
- protecting my kids from a snake.
Now here are things that I would of thought would make me feel like a man but didnt
- smoking a cigarette (just made me feel stupid)
- sex. Something about the act of sex with a women that feels distinctly feminine- i enjoy it immensely but manly is not the term i would use to describe the overall experience. Perhaps its because it involves too much spooning, foreplay, french kissing, looking into each others eyes and cuddling. These more than ofset the parts of sex that do feel manly.
- wearing a suit and tie and fancy watch (again this feels feminine like im dressing up in bling and uncomfortable clothes to look attractive to the opposite sex).
- holding my child for the first time. Again it doesnt feel manly.
now over to you?