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I feel like somewhere, priorities got lost ...
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Society & Culture Things in life you just don't understand - Part 2
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Agree, best thing is to just ignore it though mate - there's no point in dwelling on it
I was a bitch and a bully in high school. I sought some girls out that I was very nasty to (never physical violence, but verbal is just as bad) and apologised to them a few years ago. They were much more gracious than I deserved.
Weirdly enough, I always stood up for the 'disadvantaged' kids, never bullied them. For example, there was a mentally disabled girl at school and I walked into the toilets one day to two girls taunting the shit out of her, and I stood in front of her and yelled at them until they f***ed off. Another time some boys were throwing rocks at a Jewish girl and teasing her about being Jewish, so I stood in front of her too. They ended up throwing rocks at me and wrote "jew loving ****" etc all over my locker, but I didn't care.
My bullying style was more snide comments, rolling eyes, giggling at people etc. Just as hurtful and awful as pushing someone around, and I'm ashamed of how I acted in high school.
Weirdly enough, I always stood up for the 'disadvantaged' kids, never bullied them. For example, there was a mentally disabled girl at school and I walked into the toilets one day to two girls taunting the shit out of her, and I stood in front of her and yelled at them until they f***ed off. Another time some boys were throwing rocks at a Jewish girl and teasing her about being Jewish, so I stood in front of her too. They ended up throwing rocks at me and wrote "jew loving ****" etc all over my locker, but I didn't care.
My bullying style was more snide comments, rolling eyes, giggling at people etc. Just as hurtful and awful as pushing someone around, and I'm ashamed of how I acted in high school.
That's most teenage girls isn't it?
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I was never bullied or the bully-er (how would you spell that?), so I guess I find it hard to relate. There are guys from my school who still resent people that bullied them 15 years ago so I suppose it's not that easy to forgive.
The guys on my Facebook who have participated in this are far from attention seeking or doing it for the likes. Even if they were, the fact that it is initiating a conversation is nothing but a good thing. Stopping terrorism in France or making gay marriage legal is not something we as individuals can really influence. This however is.
The guys on my Facebook who have participated in this are far from attention seeking or doing it for the likes. Even if they were, the fact that it is initiating a conversation is nothing but a good thing. Stopping terrorism in France or making gay marriage legal is not something we as individuals can really influence. This however is.
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Is putting a post on facebook really doing anything about it though? Seems like just another empty gesture to me. But that is just my opinion & I suppose that if it does in fact help someone that can only be a good thing - personally I just see them and ignore them however tbh
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Also I know i am probably just a cynical prick but whatever
Nah, not really. I was pretty awful.
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Depends I think. Perhaps Grade 5-Year 7/8 it is. By Year 9 we'd all grown the **** up and matured, had none of those issues in our friendship group.
What's the mentality behind it? Just trying to be cool? Did you feel guilty afterwards or not until you got older?
I had a massive chip on my shoulder when I was a teenager. I guess it was kind of pack mentality stuff, and that's how I justified it to myself...if I didn't 'assert myself' then I'd be the one on the receiving end of it.
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You might have to explain to the youngens on this board what that is
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Done something similar. Think I have mentioned it here before. Keep wanting to message her about it but can't do it. I kind of don't want to bring it up hoping she has forgotten all about it but I just want to apologize for being a campaigner as its not who I am.
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From personal experience, a mixture of ignorance, impulsivity, judgmental and pack mentality.
At school, there was this one kid a year below, who's eyes were really far apart, so he got himself the nickname "Shark Eyes". Everytime I'd see him at lunch, I'd yell out "Shark Eyes", not thinking too much of it. I didn't know this bloke, so I didn't like him nor did I hate him.
I remembered I did this a month ago, and realised in hindsight how much of a dick I was being without realising it.
I was pretty lucky through school. Don't really remember much bullying at all. Scares me as a father though and I wonder how to best prepare my boys.
I did a little course on letting kids get upset and not coddling too much. Basically it was about building resilience and that helps with independence. Who knows though? The high school world seems much different from when I went in the 90s. God knows what they'll have to deal with around the 2030s.
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I reckon having good social skills is probably the best preventer of bullying. Finding your own group of friends in high school is important as well. High schools can be pretty big places and plenty of people to hang out with.
I reckon year 7, 8 and maybe 9 are the hardest. Kids tend to wisen up around year 10.
Although, this is coming from personal experience, and I went to a private school and I thought my high school was pretty good with the bullying nature, but I got nothing else to compare it to.
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We went to the same high school FFS. We were in the same homeroom for the last three year of school.
If you thought our school was good with bullying, I have no clue what you think bad bullying is.
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I never said it didn't happen, I just imagine it would be more prevalent at other high schools.
And what I also meant by good was that it never really went to physical violence or the person was threatened.
I went to a public primary school, and have caught up with some primary school people, and the high schools around that area had quite a few dangerous students.
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For example? Ours was full of stuck up kids with shit loads of money. That's how big private schools are.
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I was never bullied but I saw a big pack of people chasing after the lowest hanging fruit a few times when I was in Year 10 and he was in Year 7.
Maybe that's bullying in a running sense.
I think it was because he had and probably still has an ADHD like short fuse and that berating and chasing were done purely to get a rise out of him.
Maybe that's bullying in a running sense.
I think it was because he had and probably still has an ADHD like short fuse and that berating and chasing were done purely to get a rise out of him.
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