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Ex-wag Abby Gilmore joins the Herald Sun
Opinion
Abby Gilmore: How the dark times can lead you to find the best in yourself
Abby Gilmore, Herald Sun
February 23, 2018 5:30pm
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REVISITING that dark time in my life last year when Jake and I split up has been hard.
I had to look at it all over again last week as I was introduced to Herald Sun readers.
But since that time, we have all come so far.
I’m so grateful to see smiles on my kids’ faces again, and I think this is because we’ve been doing so well with “co-parenting”.
It requires sucking up your pride and putting your s**t aside no matter how dim and dark it is.
So Jake if you are reading this, high fives all round because I really do think we do a good job despite our own personal struggles behind the scenes.
We lead different lives now and are on different journeys.
THE TRUTH BEHIND MY SPLIT WITH JAKE
Abby Gilmore with her kids Milla and Arlo. Picture: Alex Coppel
I’ve met my match in Leighroy, which I never believed would happen for a long time if at all, and I feel incredibly lucky and blessed that he and his beautiful family are in the girls’ and my life.
It’s been a whirlwind but I’d do it all over again to get the outcome I have now as these people bring out the best in me.
It was quite hard at the beginning but now I understand why it needed to happen.
It shaped the trajectory of my life because the way I processed it was that as long as what you do and what you’re connected to serves a greater purpose than just yourself, you will always trample the challenges of life.
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And that’s how I came to start these workshops teaching self-love with my incredible life coach, Clair Hill.
I’m a firm believer in the universe having your back, and why wouldn’t I be after being presented with this incredible opportunity.
When offered this role I had major doubt. Never in a million years did I think my writing would take me here where I’d be speaking to an even wider audience to those on my socials.
I believe that when you are in service to someone else you are the happiest.
When I was sharing my experience I was helping people immensely and that’s why I’m just so happy and grateful to have been able to take this path less travelled so I can help and inspire you too.
‘I WAS LITERALLY BOOB-OBSESSED’: WHY I’M GETTING MINE DONE
The split with former partner Jake Stringer was tough, but both have come out better for it. Picture Norm Oorloff
Abby has found new love and a new direction. Picture: Jason Edwards
Some people thought speaking up was silly and for me that was another tough lesson. Not to back down or succumb, but to stand in my truth and keep going.
Change makes people feel uncomfortable, that’s why we don’t like it and it’s hard to master. But here I am, a few people less in my life but all the more richer and full of the right ones who are meeting me with the same energy and love.
Direction is much more important than speed, I’m really taking my time from now on and learning a lot as I go.
I know I’m headed in the right direction so make sure you are too.
It was daunting because it meant speaking to people who don’t really know what I’m about (apart from what you may have read) but it was also exciting because it meant I got an opportunity to show you my most authentic self.
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What made me so doubtful was the fact that I understand the more you put yourself out there, the more open to criticism you are and, although that is enough to turn some people off, it wasn’t for me. After I spoke up last year, I was put out there for people to discuss whether I liked it or not so I’m grateful that now I get to control what’s written and people can see what I’m about.
I’m not here to talk trash, to bag, or drag people through the mud. I don’t believe you get anywhere in life by making others feel inferior. I am here, however, to speak the truth when I feel it needs to be spoken.
Bring awareness to people who don’t particularly have a voice and shed light on things that I feel need it.
The last 18 months have been very interesting. I’ve done things I never thought I would, I’ve made friends with people I never thought I’d accept into my life, and I’ve forgiven people I never thought I could - landing my kids and I in a much better space.
It’s amazing what gratitude and compassion can teach you in a testing time. Everything that’s been presented to me in life hasn’t come easy - despite what some might think.
So here it is, my first column. I can’t wait to talk more on some of these points - and more - with you over the coming months.
Want more? Follow Abby on Instagram and check out her blog, According to Abby.
God I hope no one actually takes life advice from an early twenties, divorced mother who got breast enhancement surgery because she is so self-absorbed and addicted to getting attention on social and mainstream media. Her and Jake would have the combined IQ of a PE teacher.
God I hope no one actually takes life advice from an early twenties, divorced mother who got breast enhancement surgery because she is so self-absorbed and addicted to getting attention on social and mainstream media. Her and Jake would have the combined IQ of a PE teacher.
My Queen was a PE teacher , and she is a lot smarter than me
God I hope no one actually takes life advice from an early twenties, divorced mother who got breast enhancement surgery because she is so self-absorbed and addicted to getting attention on social and mainstream media. Her and Jake would have the combined IQ of a PE teacher.
Why would he leave Danger the same I wonder?
Why would he leave Danger the same I wonder?
true... stranger still is that they all look like rugby players now.Not too sure, seems odd doesn’t it?
On the other hand, he has made Stringer look more like an onion. Didn’t think it was possible.
Her and Jake would have the combined IQ of a PE teacher.
That's a bit rough - I know some very smart PE teachers
Clever boy too, speaks English, a little Italian... and whatever language that post was.
Good boy
Overdue. He's actually quite a good-looking dude, didn't realise.
What are our thoughts on Pickens chop?