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This is fantastic, I would like to thank everybody who has reached out and offered advice or was there to offer support. It's amazing what advice can do to somebodies life.
If you guys are ever in Adelaide, i'm happy to have a beer with you guys
If you guys are ever in Adelaide, i'm happy to have a beer with you guys
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You blokes are an inspiration to all blokes .keep up the good work on this awsome thread.some of the stories make the hairs on the back of my neck stand up .Stay strong guys ..
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Whether it's depression, anxiety, being bullied, abused etc. I can understand why people don't want to open up and tell people as it can be such a hard thing for them to do. There are a lot of things that I'm not comfortable opening up about.
Hats off to all of you who gather the courage to reach out.
Hats off to all of you who gather the courage to reach out.
Rome wasn't built in a day.haha! Thank you! I would've loved to get a job since Uni is finishing soon and need the cash. But I will learn from my mistakes
This thread is weird in a sense that most of big footy is just completely full of s**t,lies and just below average comments,then you come here and you get courageous people telling strangers about their battles and strangers trying to help them and support them,great stuff and keep up the fight everybody who's struggling.
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Today I played in the sun with my kids
We had a BBQ at a park area, a reservoir where they could run around and play
It was a great day
But I had to say goodbye, to give my little girl and boy a kiss goodbye and walk away
I have sat here and cried my eyes out since
It is tearing me apart not being with them every day, it tears me apart to let go of their little hands and leave
I miss them so so much
We had a BBQ at a park area, a reservoir where they could run around and play
It was a great day
But I had to say goodbye, to give my little girl and boy a kiss goodbye and walk away
I have sat here and cried my eyes out since
It is tearing me apart not being with them every day, it tears me apart to let go of their little hands and leave
I miss them so so much
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Hey mate. I can't begin to imagine what that would be like. I hope you are ok. So glad you decided to open up though.
Those moments, even just a BBQ or a day out, no matter how fleeting they may seem now, become a lifelong lasting memory you all take with you when you aren't together. Time heals all wounds too. Your kids will grow up and become adults one day & will hopefully have positive memories of these times together. You are still a part of their lives & you can be a positive, supportive, strong influence on them & their future.
For some perspective, I wish I could have done that with my father. I never met him. I never knew him. I never heard his voice or have even seen a picture of him. I am content with this as it is my life. But if I could have my time again I think I would have liked to have had that day out or BBQ with him.
I hope you get the right advice & support that can help you to appreciate & focus more on making the best of what you have and less on the negatives & dwelling on what you don't have.
You have the power to change how you see your world. You have the ability to frame things the best way to get the most positive outcomes. You can get through this with some support, honesty, integrity & eventually (I hope) pride that you & your kids can live long happy lifes intertwinded and able to have more awesome moments together. No matter how fleeting they may seem at the time, those moments do actually last forever IMO.
If you need to unload or anything please talk to someone you trust. PM me if you would like too mate.
All the best.
Why does it make you weak?
It makes you both irrational and irresponsible. Which then opens you up for exploitation.
I put it to you that talking and opening up is the toughest thing to do
Nothing courageous about silence mate
This forum is a small community in itself and your input here is important to others
Would be sad to see you not here
In a way I grew up with, you don't burden other people with your problems. Crying makes you weak and ugly. I grew up with if you fell down, you had to pick yourself back up. There was no holding or comforting if you were sad. That is the mentality that I'm still trying to break.
You break that mentality by differing from it
I was the same
The reason my relationship fell apart is because she and her family thought it was weak that I crumbled from PTSD
What people like that do is prevent us from breaking the mentality or way of thinking that put us in harms way to start with
You can put it any way you like but I say * those people
I try, all I see is a weak fool.
that's just your judgemental mind working. We've been programmed to identify areas of weakness in ourselves, then to address them so we remain accepted by the 'clan'. But dont believe every thought you have. A large part of mental illness is self judgement. It's amazing how hard we are on ourselves, and how we believe every thought our mind thinks as if it's gospel. Put it this way, if one of your friends came to you and said "I'm really struggling at the moment, can I confide in you about my battle with depression?" Would you think they were weak, or tell them so? I highly doubt it. You'd offer compassion, empathy, and sound advice, or at least try. That's how you need to be with yourself. When your mind tries to judge you harshly, imagine how you would talk to a friend in the same situation. I bet it wouldnt be anywhere near as harsh as your own thoughts.
Actually your right. I am hard on myself. I find it hard to forgive. Admittedly I have been receiving counselling for the past 6 months for childhood abandonment issues. It has brought back a lot of suppressed memories and with that suppressed emotions. It's amazing at how many masks people wear to fit in with the clan. I'm still in the process of learning to forgive, particularly myself.
No mate I'm in Queensland.
I do smiling mind app.
Pm mate if you want
great. I would also suggest something like https://itunes.apple.com/au/app/act-companion-the-happiness-trap-app/id668468577?mt=8
Or even better, read his book
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