Ned Ryerson
Future Captain
A sudden death is difficult enough to deal with so I can’t imagine how much harder it would be with all this gossip about whether it was an accident or suicide.
We don’t have the right to know and I don’t see why it seems so important for people to try and understand the why’s of what’s happened - all we need to do is acknowledge that a special person has passed away - that’s all we have to do
Firstly - his family won’t be taking anything external in for days. They’ll be in a state of shock and likely not trawling internet forums.
If a public figure fighting cancer had passed away people would likely conclude it was the cancer before waiting for the medical reports. People wouldn’t lecture you for saying ‘oh my god, please think of the family before saying cancer is terrible!’. Treating suicide differently can, inadvertently, add to the stigma surrounding it.
Numerous experts want a change in the way death by suicide is talked about and discussed. The mere fact that it is being speculated on via social media channels means that the language we use becomes more important for others who are at risk. The way the press should report on it is also of importance according to articles I’ve read - so by stating if people need help the press are actually being responsible because the circumstances surrounding his passing might be a trigger for those on the edge. It doesn’t mean the press is being tawdry by putting suicide and mental health resources at the end of articles.
If this is a death by suicide it doesn’t make it any less tragic, it doesn’t make his passing taboo. As someone who has to live with mental illness, not only my own but in others close to me - I implore people to do a bit of reading and understand why people want the way we discuss suicide to change to help others.
On that note - if anyone out there reading this is struggling, remember there’s always someone who will listen and get in contact with Lifeline, beyond blue or other resources if you feel you need assistance.